Retzlaff Wedding

A couple of weeks ago, I had the absolute pleasure of photographing the wedding of John Retzlaff and Mackenzie Hawk at the Rollins Mansion in Des Moines.

Click to watch their epic wedding slideshow

The weather forecast was grim but the spirits were high. Everyone was constantly checking WHO’s weather map all morning to see when the rain would start. Despite our nervousness, there was one immutable fact that hung in the air with the Iowa humidity: Today was going to be a magical day.

My first interaction with Mackenzie was a phone call during which we discussed her wedding details, including a rain backup plan. She said confidently that the ceremony was going to be outside, no matter what. “We’re getting married, and we’re willing to get wet doing it.” That’s when I understood this bride’s wonderful attitude, and that nothing could seriously go wrong with this wedding.

And as fairy tales go, not a raindrop fell from the sky until all the festivities were over. This day was truly magical because of the people who gathered and the pure, joyful, overflowing emotion. Oh, and the dancing.

John and Mackenzie are two of the kindest most loyal dedicated people I have ever met. It has been my pleasure to become good friends with them and capture the most magical day of their lives. Thank you for choosing me to photograph your wedding, and for the dance party I’ll never forget!
 

Vendors:
Hair - Alexis Hawk and Kelly Fitch
Makeup - Alexis Hawk and Kelly Fitch
Wedding Dress – Modern Dress in Boone
Groomswear - The Good Fancy
Florist – Originals by Beck
DJ - Tony Bonekamp (ceremony), The Flashdance (reception)
Catering - Delmonico Catering
Chocolate Bar - Beaverdale Confections
Wedding Coordinator - Defining the Details
Venue - Rollins Mansion

Sheree Clark & her Fork in the Road

A note from Whitney: 

As a small business owner, I've had to learn to pivot fast and often. Constant evolution and closely watching my market have been the key to my success and future growth. But as quickly as I can pivot for my business, it takes more time and convincing to jolt me into pivoting personally, especially since every move I make has a direct effect on my business. I'm getting ready for a super big transition (more on this next week) and talking to Sheree Clark, coach, and owner of Fork in the Road was exactly the perspective I needed to give me the inspiration and courage to push forward. Thank you Sheree, for being exactly what I needed, when I needed it.

Why I cried at Church: Words from Sheree Clark

Like many people, I’ve had changes I wanted to make in my life for years before I summoned up the courage to take a leap. One defining moment for me came on a Sunday at church when I actually cried—not because the sermon was so moving—but because I knew that in less than 24 hours I had to “go back to work.” The trouble was, I owned the company.

For 25 years I co-owned an advertising agency. Initially, my business partner was also my life partner (when we ended our personal relationship we decided to retain the professional aspect). In our time together, we built a successful business from nothing, received over 1,000 awards and employed scores of talented people. We survived two relocations, a major flood, 9/11 and even an IRS audit.

Our decision to close in 2009 was not made easily or lightly. But the time had come, and we each wanted to do other things with our lives. I had found that my real passion was in the healthy lifestyle arena—and the fast-paced, cutthroat advertising business was about as far from that as you could get. For what felt like an eternity, I felt like a total fraud. So after that Sunday at church...

I told my partner I wanted out — and there was no turning back.

And now? My work and home lives feel “integrated.” I am a life coach and I work with others who are at some sort of “fork in the road” to help them reconnect with their authentic selves. I help women to uplevel their diets, or figure out what’s next their careers or make a big change in their personal life—all things I have done. I get to be there to support them in reaching their highest potential and reconnecting with their deepest inner wisdom. 

The coolest part? I don’t dread Mondays anymore. And I have more energy at age 60 than I did when I was 40 and self-medicating to get through each stressful week. 

Have you ever heard the expression: “If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got?” It’s true. Next week, next month, two years from now it’ll still be true. And, unless you take some focused action, you’ll simply be older.

Watch our conversation on Wednesdays with Whitney!!!

Click the link below. 

To the Mothers of Ivory House

The women of Ivory House are intelligent, driven, savvy, and ambitious. But we wouldn’t be who we are today without the love and support of our moms. To celebrate Mother’s Day this year, we want to share our personal stories of what makes our moms so amazing.

From Rachel...

There is one woman who leads my tribe. I may not always recognize her for it. I know I do not thank her enough. I take her unconditional love and grace for granted. I am selfish in how much I lean on her. This beautiful, powerful woman is my mom.

She is my doppelgänger (I'm finally admitting it). I credit my smile, my long legs, and my laugh to her. But more importantly, I also credit her with my independence, wanderlust, and work ethic. My mom has seen me run away from her more times than I can count. She let me get on a plane to Australia at the age of 18 with no notice of when I would see her again. She has moved me from the mountains to the Midwest and back again. She gave me wings to fly, and also a soft place to land.

My sister and I would not be the women we are today without a strong female figure in our lives. I feel honored to have her as a mother, and I now cherish every second I spend with her. She has raised two strong daughters. She is the kindest grandmother to my nephew. She is lovingly devoted to my dad. She works constantly and tirelessly for the sake of others. She is the epitome of selfless.

Thank you, Mom, for raising me to be a strong woman, a fierce business owner, an outspoken advocate. Thank you for always welcoming me with open arms, no matter how rocky our relationship has been. Thank you for being the strong leader of my tribe.

From Lucy...

I consider myself lucky to identify with the cliché that my mom is my best friend. But when I think about it, that phrase is kind of missing the point.

My mom has always been a consistent presence in my life. An advocate, a nurse, a therapist, a living Google Maps, a back-tickler, a comfort blanket, a load-bearing wall. And occasionally, when I needed it, she was also a driver, maid, loan officer, and Kleenex-retriever. We even had a special code word for when I was invited to a party or a sleepover that I didn’t really want to go to, and she’d pretend I was grounded and that I wasn’t allowed to go. No one else appreciates a thunderstorm, or a hotel bar, or the sound of a train in the distance quite like my mom does.

They say friends are the family that you choose, and those friends are always there for you through boyfriends and breakups and college parties and late-night pizza parties. And it’s a very special thing to be able to put your mother in that same category. Truthfully, though, moms are so much more than that. I love my friends dearly, but my mom belongs in a category of her own. Cheers to you, Mom. Thank you for being so much more than a best friend.

From Megan...

When we were younger, my sister Natalie and I took dances classes together. When we would get home, our mom would turn on music and continue the dance party with us. This is one of my favorite memories of my amazing mother.

She consistently shows up for me as a cheerleader and confidant. Who better to talk to about your love life or best friends than your mom? She is always there for everything. For every request, every favor, every ride to school. Every time, no questions asked. Thanks for making me beautiful, not only with your great genes, but also because you always like to take care of me, making the time to style my hair or wax my eyebrows. In so many ways, I am who I am because of you.

From Whitney...

Someone was recently surprised to hear that I'm a cryer. It's true, ladies and gentlemen: I cry quite frequently. It’s rarely over the small things, but sometimes life hands you a big ol’ pile of big things to get upset about. Being a single woman who also owns a small business can frequently be daunting. All of the freedom is mine, but so are all the decisions and all the risk.

No one knows this journey of heartache and triumphs more than my mom. She is the person I call at 6am when I wake up after a night of anxious dreams. She's the person I cheer with when my success is so visible even I can see it. She is my source of strength, my foundation, my muse, my inspiration, and my saving grace. Because of her, I am not in this alone. Because of her, I have the confidence to take huge risks, knowing that I will eventually succeed but with the security that if I falter or fall, she is there ready to lift me back up.

Happy Mother's Day to the strongest woman I know. Because of you, I am resilient, I am a warrior, and things will work out for me.

About Those Thoughts Your Mind Has "On Behalf" of Your Body...

You know that moment when you give someone a compliment and their immediate reaction is to tell you how fat they're feeling that day? Or when you're eating an amazing meal and the person across from you is eating the same thing but talking about how they should have gotten a salad? Or when someone smiles at you in that way that makes you feel special, only to have them say that they are so disgusted by their yellowing teeth?

How do you feel when absorbing these words spoken by someone else? I feel...dampened. I feel sad. I feel like the wind was let out of my tires. And if I let myself spiral, I feel incredibly insecure in that person's presence. Because you know what? Whenever anyone makes negative comments about their own body in my presence, I have to try so darn hard not to let myself criticize my own body, too. I definitely fall victim to this kind of self-depreciation frequently, but it's almost worse when it's brought on by someone else. It's as if the other person's lens of criticism is a communicable disease, and they just sneezed into my coffee.

And folks, this happens. All. The. Time. I photograph people (and their perfectly imperfect bodies) for a living. I see every type of person, at every level of fitness, at every degree of self-acceptance. And let me be the first to tell you: Body acceptance and body excellence are rarely aligned. I have photographed beautiful (and I mean this is in the objective, THE WORLD MUST AGREE THAT THEY ARE GORGEOUS kind of way) people who have the lowest opinions of their physical appearance.

I truly hope that through my job I can make an impact on people's impressions of themselves. I hope that holding a standard of positivity in my studio helps increase positive mental anecdotes, even for just the short time  we’re together. But the truth is, that's not my work to do. That work happens before people arrive and after they leave the studio, and when they see the photos, and whether they choose to tear themselves apart or affirm their beauty and value.

That said, I take a lot of pride in being able to have a small but very real effect on the self-image of the people who walk through my doors. The majority of my clients walk in willing to love themselves. They walk into my space ready to feel good and take that chance and be vulnerable in front of the camera. We are all on the path to self-acceptance. No one is perfect. I just ask that people show up willing to try. I am so lucky to have so many people show up for this challenge and affirm that I’m on the right path. But dammit, I’d be lying if I said I wasn't exhausted by the few people who choose to be so unnecessarily hard on themselves.

If we’re being honest, when I’m in the presence of a critical person, I’m ten times harder on myself. All my body insecurities light up and I spiral down into my list of things I wish I had the time, the motivation, and the budget to change. I begin to obsess about my failures, my daily struggles and my bad moments in front of the mirror. It's like choosing to stand in front of a bully and get punched in the gut over and over again. And I don’t want to live there.

I am far from perfect, I have so much to work toward, but I refuse to think less of myself in the meantime. I refuse to think of myself as a project, as something not yet complete and whole and worthwhile. Because, newsflash, that will never happen to me. (And I believe that it rarely happens to anyone.) I don’t have time for perfect. I am many more important things than a dress size or a number on a scale: I am a business owner, a boss, a best friend, a daughter, and a leader. I don’t have the time to also be perfect. What I can do is be my best. I can hold myself accountable. I can be kind to myself every day. Because if I am kind to myself, the world will follow my lead.
 

Look @ You Fashion Collaboration Shoot

One of my very favorite places to shop in Des Moines is at the East Village boutique Look @ You. If you've ever met me in person, chances are I was wearing a jacket from this store. And if you haven't checked it out yet, do yourself a favor and go! (This recommendation, by the way, is coming from a gal who detests shopping. That's how awesome this store is.)

Last weekend, I got together with Amber Keppler, owner of Look @ You, and a few more of my favorite local vendors for a collaborative shoot. We met at the store, chose several outfits, glammed up our model, and hit the street of the East Village for some fun shots that showcase not only the boutique's range of clothing options but also the capacity and flexibility of our hair and makeup stylists.

Our model for this shoot was the always glamorous Julie Wulfekuhle, whose frame and attitude were perfect for Look @ You's clothing. Julie is the brain and creative force behind Le Foyer, a lifestyle blog that also incorporates career, travel, shopping, and health advice. I met her when she contacted me about taking her headshots, and was impressed during our shoot when her nerves melted away into an incredibly relaxed, confident version of herself. I instantly knew that I wanted to photograph her again. When she came to me about updating her blog, the idea for this collaborative shoot was born.

Ivy Boyd is my go-to gal for clean, classic makeup for every face and skin type. I have the privilege to work with her on a regular basis for my creative portrait shoots. Ivy has the innate ability to make our clients feel comfortable, confident, and 100% themselves, even if they're wearing more makeup than they normally would. Her work on this shoot ranged from clean and light to evening elegance, No matter what look she's trying to achieve, Ivy pulls it off effortlessly.

Working at Elevencherry, Stacy Syroka is my favorite new hairstylist on the scene. She has quickly proven herself to be multitalented, demonstrating her talent in every facet of her job. Her sarcasm never fails to keep me giggling, and I have so much fun on every shoot we get to work together! Stacy's styles for this shoot varied from tousled, sexy curls to a mermaid-esque braid to a playful ponytail. Her skillful styling lent the perfect touch to Julie's multiple looks.

Finally, Miss Amber! She brought everything together with her boutique's phenomenal array of day-to-night looks. We had no shortage of options for Julie to wear on this shoot, and in fact we ended up with three extra looks that we didn't even have time for. Amber specializes in elegant clothing that is every bit as comfy as pajamas. I am so comfortable in everything that I buy from Look @ You, and I love it even more because I can wear the pieces all day and then go out after work in the same thing and feel absolutely fabulous. 

This shoot reminds me of the importance of developing relationships (both business and personal) with other entrepreneurial spirits in our community. Projects like this are great for promoting all of our endeavors. And in situations like this, that old adage is true: A rising tide (or a fabulously styled shoot) lifts all boats!

Finding Stories in Woodland Cemetery: A Walk with Buz Brenton

Today I took a tour of one of the most historic places in Des Moines: Woodland Cemetery. I was joined by my mentor and friend, Junius (Buz) Brenton. Currently 83 years old and thriving, Buz is responsible for initiating some pretty amazing projects around our city, such as the revitalization of the Greater Des Moines Botanical Garden and the Brenton Arboretum. He is passionate about history and passing along knowledge to the next generation.

One of his current passion projects is restoring the headstones in Woodland Cemetary to their proper upright position. This cemetery was established in 1848, before Des Moines was even the state capitol. This makes it the oldest cemetery in the city, and as a result, parts have fallen into disrepair. Many of the deceased no longer have relatives routinely checking on their gravestones. The ground has also shifted over time, causing some of these stones to lean and occasionally tip over. Buz commented that after five generations, there is usually no family left who are connected to the namesake. 

Buz believes in the legacy of Des Moines in both big and small ways. He is also interested in dendrology (the study of trees). In fact, he loves trees more than anyone else I've ever met! While touring around Woodland Cemetery, Buz pointed out his favorite tree to me. He described this particular tree as "flamboyant but modest." Its sturdy trunk rises and splits evenly into beautiful, even branches that reach upwards as if honoring the people buried beneath its canopy. We stood marveling at its complexity and symmetry, the beauty of its branches dividing into themselves in some effortless, majestic pattern that only nature can accomplish. As Buz dove into the topic of trees, he anthropomorphized them, talking about their longevity, their lack of frivolity, their ability to weather the storm. "Trees embody so many qualities that men should, but so rarely do." 

As we walked underneath the tree, it struck me how true these words were. Underneath the ground, the roots of this tree and others nearby had been growing together for decades, sharing nutrients in the warmer months and standing solidly through the colder ones. It's something similar to a community: On the surface, we are all individuals living our own lives. But underneath, and where it really matters, we hold each other up. We share resources and depend on one another. We shape the landscape. 

As Buz and I strolled around the cemetery, he explained that most of the trees in this cemetery were planted at the same time, which you can see by their similar size and shape. He also pointed out the oldest stone building in Des Moines: the cemetery's Receiving Vault, where the city stored the remains of those who passed away during the winter when the ground was too frozen to bury them. He pointed out the gravestones of prominent Des Moines leaders of the past. Familiar names like Savery, Hubbell, Frankel, Crocker, and Sherman are scattered across the 69-acre plot. The people who built Des Moines, who started this journey and laid down the foundation for what has become such a vibrant city, are lying so close to us, and I feel like I know so little about them.

I am guilty, as many of us are, of being obsessed with the grind, the trends, the latest events and social gatherings. Of being "in the know," of knowing the people in the know. But how much do we actually know? Where would we be today if these brave men and women had only forged their own paths without regard to where their city would be in 100 years? And is that any less important than understanding where we were 100 years ago?

This trip to Woodland Cemetery with my dear friend Buz opened my eyes and my heart to the rich history that's often lying right under our feet. It's a privilege to live in a city with so much to learn, and it's our responsibility to take an interest and pass on that history, these feelings, and this knowledge to future generations. 

Let's Chat Recycling with Ciji Mitrisin of RecycleMe Iowa

I still remember the feeling I had over 25 years ago, walking out of the grocery store with a wad of cash in my hands from collecting pop cans out of my dad’s junk yard. This moment may have been the impetus to starting my business, but recycling has always played a role in my life: My parents were always telling us to turn off the lights, stop running the water while brushing our teeth, and heading to every garage sale in town (and I mean EVERY garage sale!). It was a way to save money so we could go on family vacations and take part in every sport and club that we wanted to. My passion for the environment, however, really clicked while living abroad in New Zealand. The country’s natural beauty will bring tears to your eyes. I recall the exact moment when I was enjoying the beauty surrounding me, only to look down and see piles of litter. Without thinking, I picked it up. The solution seemed so clear, the problem so easy to fix. Pick it up.

After leaving New Zealand, I relocated to Des Moines. Living in an apartment with no recycling was perplexing. This is a big town, I thought. Does that mean that no apartment tenants in the entire city have access to recycling? It became a topic of conversation at every social gathering, and I quickly learned that I was not the only one disappointed by the lack of options. The city provided curbside recycling to residences, so why not us? I started to get angry, and decided to direct my energy into doing something productive to solve this problem. I took on the fight to create better recycling options for the community, which I was growing to love more and more each day. In 2010, with a small group of motivated "eco-heroes," I started RecycleMe Iowa. 

We’ve heard the phrase “reduce, reuse, and recycle” a million times, but how well are we really practicing this? When you start separating your recycling from your trash, you see the difference one individual can make in the world. It’s my favorite conversation to have with a new recycler. It reminds me to keep challenging the waste industry, to make it economically viable so more jobs can be created, and to eliminate landfill-bound items like straws and styrofoam.

It takes time and commitment to form a habit, so I challenge my community, family, and friends to create an Earth Day resolution and make a change. Forgot your reusable bags in your car? Turn around and go get them. Get coffee everyday at your local coffee shop? Start bringing your own cup. See some litter on the ground near a trash or recycling bin? Pick it up and throw it away. There are so many simple solutions that each individual can use to make a real impact. I challenge you all to pick one new habit and stick with it for the full month of April. If you live in an apartment, work at a business, or plan events, get in touch with us at RecycleMe Iowa. We are here to help you live a greener life, and we always love talking trash!

Finally, as Whitney and I talked about in our video (above), we have our 8th birthday party coming up! We hope to clink drinks with you at our open house on Thursday, April 19th at CollaborateDSM (31st and Ingersoll) from 5:30-7:00 pm. Bring your business card for a chance to win prizes, too!

A note from Lucy:

I could not be more proud of my beautiful friend Ciji! She and I have been very close friends since I first moved to Des Moines in 2011. We met at a yoga class and bonded over our passion for sustainability. She's taught me so much about overcoming the challenges that small businesses and grassroots movements face, and has inspired me to make small changes in my own life that add up to major ones. She is always spreading her message with a smile and an open heart, willing to talk to anybody and everybody about the difference that they can make as just one person. Ciji, you are truly one in a million. I'm so proud to call you a friend, and can't wait to start kickin' trash and takin' names with you in April!

Getting (and Staying!) Organized with the Neat Method

My name is Sophie Gillotti, and I own Neat Method Des Moines, a luxury home organizing company that serves over 45 markets. We work closely with our customers to make bathrooms, kitchens, closets, nurseries, offices, pantries, and playrooms NEAT! We also specialize in moves and relocates. 

With a passion for detail and display, I personally enjoy creating shoppable spaces that are suitable for each client's specific needs. When we're finished with your space, it should feel like your own personal showroom. Being organized creates a more functional lifestyle.

Whitney came to me because she felt like none of the things in her studio had a home, and the clutter was taking over her workspace. I was delighted by the opportunity to help her get organized in order to establish a space that is functional for not only herself and her staff, but for all the clients coming through her doors.

I began by taking inventory of her things, where they were located and why.

Before photos of the snack area

I then removed all products and supplies from shelves, drawers, and the cubbies in her production area. (We made a huge mess, but that's the first step to becoming neat!) The next phase was to categorize, edit, and sort.

Sorting and editing everything is the scariest part, but it's all worth it in the end.

Once we had established the items that Whitney needed, we talked about how often each item was used so that I could lay out a plan where everything would have a home. After that, I went shopping for organizational items like boxes, folders, and card holders. 

The last step was to create cute labels to make it easy to identify where things go! These are great when there may be several different people putting things away at different times. It also helps to hold everyone accountable for putting things back in their proper place.

After photos of her snack area, cabinet drawer, shooting area, and production area cubbies

Working with Whitney was an incredible experience! She is very talented, her clients are extraordinary, and now she has a neat and tidy space that accurately reflects her business.

Convinced it's time to get Neat? Contact us at 515-326-0762 to set up a consultation! 

A note from Whitney:

Sophie came into my life at the perfect time. I was drowning in paperwork, office supplies, snacks, disposable silverware, Winston's paraphernalia, you name it! She was able to help me identify the things I could part with and the things that were truly benefitting my business and my space. It took a little bit to admit that I needed someone to save me from myself, but once I talked with Sophie about how to improve the situation, I was beyond thrilled. 

Sophie took the time and really invested herself in implementing a streamlined system for me. Her thoughtful details (like the labels!) make it so easy for everyone to keep things organized. I could never have accomplished this without her.

Dress for Success: The Gift of Confidence

I am so lucky. 

This is what I kept repeating to myself all day on Sunday, March 4th, 2018. 

I am so lucky to have this team of talented, generous people showing up to donate their time and talents to Dress for Success clients. I am so lucky to have a job and the flexibility to give my time and passions. I am SO LUCKY that I've never experienced true hardship. My privilege. 

Recognizing that, I jump at any chance of passing that luck and privilege on to others who might benefit from it. This event was one small way of providing confidence and support to women in our community who may not have always been so lucky. They say that when you can give a piece of yourself to someone else, it comes back to you tenfold. Never have I found this to be more true than with these portraits. I feel the love from that day every time I look at them, and I hope the feeling continues for a long time to come.

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A note from Lucy, Ivory House Photography's Studio Manager: 

The day began the way I expected: rushing to set out snacks and bottles of water, unlocking the doors, answering last-minute emails about the event. What’s the parking situation? Which street is the door on again? The stylists arrived with their ring lights and curling irons. Is there another outlet in this corner? No problem, I’ll set up in the kitchen. Jody White, Executive Director and Co-founder of Dress for Success, was all smiles as she introduced herself to everyone, warmly thanking each person for donating their Sunday to a great cause.

The Glam Teams, clockwise from top left: Ashley Maree Harvey (hair), Violeta, Natalie Gendle (makeup, ACADEMIC Lash & Beauty); Ivy Boyd (makeup, Ivy Boyd Makeup Artist + Beauty Blogger), Africa, Stacy Syroka (hair, Elevencherry); Desi Thompson (hair, Desi at Dolce), Jenny, Natalie Gendle (makeup, ACADEMIC Lash & Beauty); Kelsey Ziemann (makeup, Kelsi Ziemann Artistry), Jasmin, Kearra Chester (hair)

Whitney’s idea for a campaign to benefit Dress for Success originated before I came to work at Ivory House. Selling discounted headshots to her regular clients seemed like a great way to generate revenue that would allow for her to donate portraits to the clients of Dress for Success, an organization that empowers women to thrive professionally. She first mentioned this undertaking in my job interview back in January. Hearing her talk about the importance of elevating every member of the community made me realize that working at Ivory House was going to be much more than a nine-to-five job. Coming fresh from the corporate world, this was very appealing to me. 

My role on Sunday as Whitney’s studio manager was to manage the flow and make sure everyone was getting what they needed. I was anticipating a fast pace and lots of last-minute problem-solving, but as soon as the women began to arrive, it was clear things were going to go much smoother than I anticipated. The "Glam Teams," compromised of incredibly talented hair and makeup artists, were matched with a Dress for Success client. As anyone who’s been to a salon can attest, once the women were seated in their chairs and the pampering began, their stories began to pour out. 

There was Violeta, a legal assistant at Drake, who told me about the lifelong romance with her husband that started in their hometown in Mexico and brought them all the way to Des Moines.

Violeta

There was Sharon, who works in the crafts department at Walmart and who boasted that she has 13 great-grandkids. She honors the memory of her late husband, her sweetheart and the love of her life, by wearing their wedding rings around her neck. 

Sharon

After 10 years in school while also raising three kids as a single mom, Jasmin is going to graduate next year with her master’s degree in social work, and is currently working as self-sufficiency counselor.

Jasmin

Kimberly brought so much attitude and energy to the day. She kept us laughing the whole time, and her confidence shone through in every single photo that we took of her.

Kimberly

Angela, who I told that I would definitely ask for her ID at a bar, told me she’d been married for 14 years and has nine children. (Angela also told me an incredible story about her dog Capone, who’ll be receiving a medal of bravery next month.)

Angela

Africa opened up about her history of domestic violence and the strength it took to take her children and leave her husband to start over in a country where she barely spoke the language. 

Our interactions were brief, but the energy in the “glam room” was that of support and love. 

In the studio, Whitney was working her magic with each woman, making them feel confident and beautiful. Your hair is flawless! Oh my gosh you have the most perfect jawline. Yes, those eyes! You’re killin’ it! It wasn’t anything out of the ordinary for her when it comes to shooting any client who walks through the door, but today was different. These women have overcome obstacles and carried weight on their shoulders that we don’t know about, that maybe is only seen in their hesitance to meet the camera’s eye. Whitney took the time to make them feel beautiful, radiant, and cared for, and the proof is in their stunning images. The person who entered the studio was not the same person who emerged. 

The day came to a close with smiles and hugs of gratitude, exchanged phone numbers, and more than a few happy tears (my own included). Giving the gift of confidence to these women who have overcome so much in their lives, and providing them with a gorgeous portrait that they can share and keep forever, means just as much to us as it does to them. It's unbelievably rewarding when we're lucky enough to have the opportunity to share our skills and talents with others in the community. I'm so grateful to be with a company that values lifting each other up whenever we're able. As our stylist Kearra said, it's why we're on this planet.

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We couldn't have done this without the support of our amazing collaborators:

Jody White and Nicole Roe Sickels of Dress for Success Des Moines

The Glam Squad:
Kelsi Ziemann with Kelsi Ziemann Artistry
Ivy Boyd with Ivy Boyd Makeup Artist + Beauty Blogger
Natalie Sanger Gendle with Academic lash & beauty
Stacy Syroka independent stylist at Elevencherry
Ashley Maree Harvey independent hair stylist
Kearra Chester independent hair stylist
Desi Joelle with Desi at Dolce

And our kind and patience videographers (video to come): 
Caleb and Joe Stevens

And lastly, a huge thanks to the Ivory House team: Megan, Rachel, and Lucy.

Wednesdays with Whitney: Gina Skinner-Thebo

“As we lose ourselves in the service of others we discover our own lives and our own happiness.” Dieter F. Uchtdorf

A note from Whitney: 

From the moment you meet Gina, you know she is special - in large part because she has the amazing capability of making every human in her presence feel incredible and HEARD. From our very first conversation, I knew I could trust Gina with my deepest insecurities, my ugliest thoughts and my wildest dreams. This woman shows up to listen. She shows up to connect on a deeper level and she passionately pursues her most innate capability - creating community. To Gina - the women who truly does it all: thank you for consistently showing up in all your honesty. You allow us all to exhale and live a little more fully in this beautiful mess we call "real life."

A common theme I hear from women who are “getting it done” in our community is “there’s never a perfect time to start something”. Relationships develop, careers lead you in unexpected directions, children need different things at each stage of their lives, and so on. I’ve got a lot going on. To say that I love everything I do in life would be a disservice to those of you reading this piece. Sometimes I do things because they need to be done- not necessarily because they fill my heart. For example, planning my son’s parties at school and determining what crafts they will create doesn’t spark creativity and joy in me. But it does contribute to the happiness of 23 first graders and so I do it. The joy comes when I attend the party and witness the children having fun.

I have a lot of privilege. Something I’ve focused on the last few years is making sure I acknowledge my privilege and then do what I can to give back to my community. I do that through loving my family as well as I know how, taking pride in my professional work, showing up for other women and filling in where I can. I may not always be the perfect person for a task but I might be the only one willing to do it! Using the privilege we have to expand opportunities for all women is one cornerstone of modern feminism.

I’ve always been drawn toward leadership roles. I like engaging with others and I’m not afraid of speaking my truth. I’ve enjoyed many programs and academies where I’ve built up my leadership muscle. The Atwood Center for Women is my way of taking the wheel and steering the ship. It’s me deciding that I have valuable things to offer women in my community and then doing something to serve them. I’m a relationship person. I want to dive right in when I first meet people. I want to know how you’re broken and I want to tell you how I’ve patched myself back together over the years. I want to build you up and I want you to hold me accountable. So let’s get started.

Wednesdays With Whitney: Kim Wall

Kim Wall has been creating tech solutions since childhood. It is no shock that her professional passions revolve around inclusivity in the tech industry. The fabulous fem is the President and Co-Founder of dsmHack, a non-profit focused on bringing technical solutions to other non-profits who desperately need the help, but often can't afford the high price tag of developing software. Kim, along with her team of tech wizards found a way to help solve problems from the inside out through a yearly weekend hackathon. 

Read what Kim has to say about the dsmHack journey: 

Nonprofit organizations face many barriers as they work to further their missions and support their clients. Often, budgets are tight and the allowance for technology help is unobtainable. This problem is what led to the launch of dsmHack with our signature event: the Des Moines Charity Hackathon, an annual event that brings together technical resources with the nonprofits that make our community great.

For those not familiar with a hackathon, generally speaking it's where tech professionals spend 48 hours focused on the task of solving a problem or coming up with a cool new piece of technology. Usually, it's a competition with winners often getting a nice sized check or even a job. Our hackathon is different. dsmHack isn't a competition. It's about the community coming together to make Des Moines shine brighter.

Each year, the dsmHack committee solicits applications from nonprofit organizations in the Greater Des Moines area and beyond who need help overcoming a technology problem. Project submissions vary from digitizing paper processes, streamlining donor databases, to helping an organization organize a web presence.

While nonprofits prepare their dream projects, volunteers sign up to commit a weekend of their time to help these organizations. They go in sight unseen, with no idea what they’ll be working on or who they’ll be helping—which is part of the fun for many participants!

During last year's event we provided nearly $160,000 in in-kind technology services to 10 local nonprofits. That's $160,000 that doesn't have to taken from other important projects and initiatives.

This year's event is being held March 22-24 at the FFA Enrichment Center in Ankeny, IA. Our tech pro spots sold out in a record 48 hours, but applications for nonprofit projects are currently open through March 6th. 10 nonprofits will be selected from the pool of applicants to receive FREE technical help during the event.

If you're a nonprofit that could use a little tech TLC or you know of one that does, please head to our Nonprofits page to learn more and to apply. If you have any questions about the process or whether your project is a good candidate for the hack, please don't hesitate to reach out to us at nonprofits@dsmhack.org.

If you're interested in learning more about dsmHack, please visit our website!

Empowerment Portrait Winner: Mary Bacon

Courageous, Intuitive,  Generous

These are the three words used to most accurately describe Mary Bacon, Winner of the Ivory House Empowerment Portrait.

When I called Angela Ames to tell her that her mom had won the Empowerment Session, she instantly burst into tears. This was the moment I knew I had made the right choice. There were SO many amazing nominees. Reading through the stories of these amazing women gave me chills. I hope throughout my career, I have the honor to impact each and every one of these women the way they have impacted people around them. 

But there can only be one winner and this year I am so pleased to introduce Mary Bacon. Mary is a mother of 3 beautiful daughters, Karen, Rebecca and Angela and wife to Richard Bacon, career UPS driver and strong advocate for the beautiful women in his life. 

Mary is a survivor. She beat stage IV breast cancer and is in the process of beating colon cancer. On top of her other cancer diagnosis, Mary has a rare form of Leukemia that fights against her healthy blood cells, making recovery even more difficult. Her health battles have left her partially blind and hard of hearing and she and Richard travel to from Pleasant Hill to Des Moines 4 times a week for dialysis. Throughout all this, Mary effortlessly maintains a positive attitude. She spends her days making blankets for the needy, always staying busy and helping those less fortunate. 

Here is what Angela, Mary's youngest daughter and nominator had to say about her mom:

"My mom is a true definition of warrior, humanitarian and above all else, an amazing mother. She never gives up. She sees ten paths out of a dead end. Her three girls mean everything to her. NOTHING - not even being told that she has a few short months to live - keeps her from encouraging her girls to follow their happiness."

"Growing up my parents would always tell us how fortunate we were, and that we had so much to share with others. I don't remember being "rich" (we certainly were not) but my parents often cleaned out our pantry and fridge to take food to the hungry. My mom would deliver our old clothes to people she felt could use a hand up. My parents do not have a lot but they always taught us that we have plenty. To this day, my sisters and I dig deeper for those who can use a hand up because we grew up with such strong role models of generosity. "

Mary got the full treatment at Ivory House Photography. Christina Davis from Outside In Consulting took Mary shopping, ensuring she felt confident in the clothes she was wearing. Christina described Mary as kind, positive, optimistic, hopeful with a beautiful sweet spirit. Her GLAM TEAM couldn't agree more. 

Ivy Boyd was in charge of Mary's makeup application. Mary has amazing skin and gorgeous blue eyes, so accentuating her beautiful features was easy. Stacy Syoka took point on hair and we were all smitten with Mary's natural dark chocolate color and gorgeous gray streak. By the time Mary was in my hands, she had already been taken care of by so many amazing professionals, and my job was EASY. 

In the short time since the photoshoot, Angela says that her parents have a renewed sense of confidence. They are going out more, doing new things in the world and exploring more options. Illness can create a real barrier, one where we protect ourself and because of that, stop doing things we once enjoyed. This small photoshoot, while not life changing was proof that both Mary and Richard can do the things they used to enjoy. 

To Mary: I hope this experience made you feel truly beautiful, the way your husband and girls see you everyday. Your gentle, kind spirit shined through in every moment of the process and your GLAM TEAM loved working with you! Thank you for giving us your time and for giving so much back to the world around you. You are the true embodiment of perseverance and kindness. 

Sarah Brown Wessling: Educator for Life

Sarah Brown Wessling makes an IMPACT.

I was a quiet high schooler, unsure of my mind and my place in the world. I participated on the periphery, preferring to watch rather than act. I spent my time reading and writing. My journals from these years are epic and hilarious and my book shelves were packed with well loved paperbacks. 

I entered Sarah's AP English class apprehensively. Her classroom was not a place to hide. Students will often say, "Ms. Wessling was the first person to SEE me," and I could not agree more with that statement. Outside of my family, who knew my sassy self to the core, Ms. Wessling was the first person to identify me as a strong thinking, a leader, and someone who could create for myself. 

Years later, while I was living in Rochester, NY and working as a photographer, Sarah contacted me via Facebook. She wanted my permission to share my journey and profession with her classroom. Again, my first reaction was, "Why me?" and again, Sarah was the first person to tell me that what I was doing was important and different. 

Sarah gave me the tools I need to think critically about my life and choices. Now that I own my own business, Sarah is right by my side, but now she occasionally asks my advice and seeks my guidance. I am able to walk beside her, giving knowledge as I receive. She is my cheerleader, challenger, thought provoker and festival buddy. She is my inspiration, my foundation and my reflection.

Words from Molly Hanson, Executive Director of Iowa River Revival: Class of 2005

Sarah is an amazing person for so many reasons. One of my favorite aspects of our relationship is how it has changed over and over again and will most definitely continue on that trajectory. 

I first met her as a student in her AP English class at Johnston High School. Being a recovering high school over-achiever, it still irks me a little bit to call her Sarah rather than Ms. Wessling.  I was an English nerd obsessed with moody beats writers. Sarah took an interest, always making a point of noticing me and whatever book I happened to be reading at the time.  I was always flattered that she cared and was impressed by my selections.  Her classroom pushed me out of my comfort zone, expanding not just my thoughts - but the way I thought. With her leadership, I was introduced to poetry, Shakespeare, symbolism, the male-dominated cannon, and perhaps most importantly for my career,  grant writing. I loved her AP English class and have since been back to help teach lessons in grant writing. 

With curiosity and adventure as two of my dominant forces, I went on to become a well-read science major. I am constantly in awe of the magnificence of the planet and our universe.  But even with my outdoorsy side, I still relish any opportunity to escape into a good book.  And I still love talking about them with Sarah.  Since high school, we have become friends.  We've danced at each others' birthday parties, gone on long runs to work through the stresses of adult life, swapped graphic novels, hung out with each others' families, and have motivated each other to push through challenges and examine what it means to be on the other side. She is still a mentor, but now she is also a peer, inspiration, confidant and a dear friend.  

At her 40th birthday party, Sarah made cards for each attendee containing the word that came to mind when she thought of them.  The word on my card was fearless.  Everyday, I try to live that truth she has seen in me for the last decade.  Her students, as well as her friends, are lucky to have her.  I am lucky to have her. 

Words from Meredith Luksetich, Animal Lover and Administrative Assistant at ISG, Class of 2009

Photographer: Polka-Dot-Photography by Annie Mitchell

I see myself as an articulate, big picture thinker. With every decision, I consider the whole scope of the problem. Where am I? Where do I want to go? Who do I want to be and how am I going to get there? Or, perhaps most importantly, am I already there? I attribute these bigger picture thoughts and questions directly towards Ms. Wessling's challenging classroom. 

Ms. Wessling always had a different way of teaching. I remember walking into her classroom and feeling as though I was finally breathing fresh air. In her space, I knew my ideas and my work were never wrong, but I could challenge myself to improve upon them. Now that I'm older and navigating adulthood, I find I find my brain multi-tasking and working through the best way to approach something or someone.

The biggest impact Mrs. Wessling made on me is how I think and create now that I'm an adult. I am more confident in public speaking, writing, and the way I read and comprehend not only the words on the page, but the world around me. She isn’t just teaching English at Johnston High School, she is teaching students how to think for themselves in the most creative and challenging ways - ensuring our future successful. I can say with confidence, that every student of Ms. Wessling is going to have a  strong, positive memory of Mrs. Wessling, whatever their ‘success’ might be.

Wednesdays With Whitney: Kelly Timmerman

One of my favorite things about our Des Moines community is our unique ability to rally around our warriors and lift people up. Kelly is one of those warriors and she came highly recommended. During the one month lag time between scheduling and shooting, Kelly's name kept serendipitously coming up. I ran into a friend at Hy-Vee and she mentioned Kelly's amazing on-the-go meals that Kelly and Hy-Vee collaborate on. I heard several friends talk about the success of Kelly's health program. By the time Kelly walked into the studio, I was beyond ecstatic to meet her. 

Kelly's journey has not been an easy one. Kelly's journey has not been an easy one. She beat colon cancer diagnosis only to face breast cancer, which doctors thought spread to her ovaries. Before turning 40, Kelly had gone through multiple rounds of chemo and radiation, a double mastectomy AND a hysterectomy. She had lost her hair and struggled with the repercussions of cancer and cancer treatment on her body. Kelly turned to her faith and nutrition to heal her from the inside. What started as a personal health journey quickly morphed into a professional venture. 

One of the foundational beliefs in Kelly's program is that you SHOULD NEVER BE HUNGRY. I personally love this philosophy. One of Kelly's big go to meal prep options is a smoothie - below you can read her reasoning and find a delicious recipe! 

Best Blueberry Oat Smoothie

Have you ever been short on time but wanted a quick, healthy meal?  Try a smoothie!  When made correctly, smoothies provide great on-the-go nutrition and boost your metabolism. Here are some of my Top Smoothie Tips:

1. Make it “PFC”.  So what is PFC?  You need Protein, Fat and Carbohydrates to balance your blood sugar, burn fat, boost your metabolism and have solid energy.   Loading up a smoothie with just fruit (carbs) will spike your blood sugar, causing you to store fat.  Soon after, your energy will crash and you’ll be hungry.  The best way to get heatlhy and lean is to eat balanced PFC meals and snacks. This is the foundational teaching in my  Kelly Timmerman Nutrition Program.
2. Always pack in healthy greens.  Start with adding a handful of fresh spinach. Honestly, you won’t even taste it! As you get used to this, gradually increase the amount and add some kale, too.
3. If you don’t have Magic Bullet, get one!  

Here’s how you can build a basic PFC Smoothie:

• 1-2 cups liquid (unsweetened vanilla almond milk, unsweetened coconut milk, etc.)
• 1 serving quality protien powder, plain Greek Yogurt, or Hemp Hearts
• 1 serving carbs (approximately 1 cup frozen fruit - or less if adding oats)
• 1 serving healthy fat (nut butter, coconut oil, avocado, chia seeds, etc.)
• Optional:  ice, stevia, almond extract, vanilla extract

Bonus Tips:

• If your kale or spinach is about to get old, put it in a zip lock bag, squeeze out the air, and store in the freezer. These crunchy, icy leaves work great for future smoothies.
• As bananas start to ripen, peel them and freeze in small zip lock bags for future smoothies.

Now that you’ve become educated on building healthy, balanced smoothies, get creative and change up the fruit, try different flavors and types of protein, and experiment with extracts or spices for flavor.  See below for one of my very favorite smoothies recipes.

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Kelly's Blueberry Oat PFC Smoothie

For 2 Servings:

1 cup raw spinach

2 c unsweetened almond milk

2 servings vanilla protein powder

1/2 cup frozen blueberries

1/2 banana (frozen is great!)

1 tsp cinnamon

1/4 cup raw oats

1 Tbs healthy fat (olive oil, coconut oil, chia seeds, etc)

Optional: couple ice cubes

Blend and enjoy.  So yummy!  

Note: This is 2 servings, so I cut it in half and easily mix in my Magic Bullet. 

Tip: It will thicken as it sits due to the oatmeal. Add extra liquid if you're letting it set for awhile.

P.S. I'm putting the final touches on my exciting FREE interview series "Healthy Crazy Life: Simple Wellness and Weight Loss Hacks for Busy Women", which airs April 2. I've collaborated with 20+ wellness experts to bring you top strategies to take care of YOU, to look and feel great, even with a busy schedule. If you'd like to join us, click here: Healthy Crazy Life Series , enter your email address, and I'll be in touch soon!

Shane Hefty: Your Designated Dapper Dude

Meet Shane Hefty, Your Designated Dapper Dude

I met Shane the day he walked in for his photoshoot. I was so impressed by how prepared he was for the experience, especially given the lack of resources I had provided. He brought several suit and tie options that fit his personal brand and business goals. He had a fresh haircut and neatly trimmed beard.  

On top of being organized, he knew exactly what he was looking for in a successful photo, and together, we achieved his goals. When I started designing a Men’s Style Guide, I knew Shane was the best choice for advising on men’s fashion. The following pages are filled with great advice, not only on how to prepare for your headshots, but useful knowledge on where to get started in the wide world of men’s styling. Happy reading!

A NOTE FROM SHANE

People often ask if I own any clothes other than suits; many can’t recall ever seeing me in anything else, and in a number of cases close friends are shocked the first time they see me in a pair of joggers. A large part of my personal brand is being suited up at all times; even though I may be over dressed more often than not. My mantra when it comes to my personal attire is, “Dressing like the place you’re coming from or going to is more important than where you currently are.” 

Regardless of your profession, you need to look like you’re the best at what you do, whether it’s a server at a restaurant or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. For some, that simply means clean clothes that fit well and are in line with the dress code of your employer. For others, that means a suit and tie, and for a broad swath of people, it’s somewhere in between. 

In the coming paragraphs, I’ll share a few key items every man should have in their closet, some grooming and tailoring tips, and finally, what you should wear to a headshot session with Whitney. Let’s get started!

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10 Closet Essentials

A Navy Suit

Navy suits are a great alternative to traditional black and are perfect for everything from job interviews to dates. Bonus: It’s versatile enough, you can wear the jacket as a sportcoat or the pants without the jacket.  

A White Collared Shirt

You need one perfect dress shirt to go with your perfectly tailored navy suit. If you’re of average build, always get a slim fit shirt. I buy most of my dress shirts online from Charles Thywhitt – great prices, quality and fit.

Brown and Black Lace-up Dress Shoes

You can buy the same shoe in different colors.  Brown will go with your navy suit and the black are more formal. This is an opportunity to invest, as well-made shoes can be repaired and last decades. I suggest leather soles and sticking to a classic style like a cap toe or wing tip.

Dark Blue Denim Jeans

Dark denim looks great with sneakers or dress shoes, t-shirts or dress shirts, cardigans or sport coats.  I prefer J. Crew’s or Levi’s 513 jeans – good quality, great fit, and they’re not $300. 

White V-Neck Undershirt

If you’re wearing a dress shirt without a tie or a polo shirt, select a v-neck tee.  The sleeves should hit your mid-bicep – if they don’t, it will affect the fit of your shirt. 

A White Pocket Square

A white pocket square is conservative and simple, but also shows that you pay attention to the details.  YouTube has great tutorials showing how to fold it in a square.  

A Grey Tie

A grey tie goes with everything from your suit to your jeans; it works for weddings and job interviews or on a first date with your white button down and dark jeans.  

A Gray Polo Shirt

A gray polo shirt is the short sleeve version of the white button-down shirt – it goes with everything.  You can dress down your navy suit or wear it to Sunday brunch. Try to find one without logos and try numerous brands on until you find one that fits perfectly.  A good fitting shirt hits mid-bicep and if you wear it untucked, it should hit just below your belt. 

Jack Purcell Sneakers

Jack Purcell was a badminton star who had his own converse sneakers, which looked similar to the ubiquitous Converse All-Stars.  The difference is the “smile” on the toe of the shoe.  These sneakers are simple and incredibly comfortable.  The colors are fairly subdued, so you can get them in navy, white, and grey.  I like white or grey, as they provide a nice contrast to the jeans or the navy suit. 

A Cardigan

You can wear a cardigans like a coat in the spring and the fall.  It’s like a sweatshirt, but dressy; if you get hot, it’s easy to take off.  It’s also a great substitute for a sport coat.  

Leveling Up: 

Invest in tailoring. I can’t emphasize this enough. It will make your investment in the suit and shirts that much more valuable. A good fit just as important as good quality material and construction. I recommend building a relationship with a tailor. J.D. at Frederick’s Tailoring in Clive is the best.  Tell him Shane sent you.

The Ivory House Photography Team

I started Ivory House Photography as a one-woman show, working out of my mom's house, hustling and hoping that someday I would have a team to support my big, big dreams. The ladies in the photo above are truly my right and left hands (Winston's just there for his good looks and snuggling abilities). 

Megan came to me my very first summer as a college intern. She showed up ready to work and always seemed to be available when I needed her. When I found myself in desperate need of a production assistant, she was the first person I turned to. Megan's diligence and commitment to quality can be seen in every image that leaves the studio. She has taken on every challenge and every task with such exuberance and excellence. Working with her is a dream. 

Rachel Peterson and I often joke that we have no idea how we met, but that meeting changed the game for Ivory House. Are you liking this blog? Do you enjoy Wednesdays with Whitney and my awesome Instagram feed? Did you find value in following along with the Empowerment Campaign!?! These momentous digital feats are all possible due to the type A brillance Rachel possesses. Her attention to detail and genuine passion for the Ivory House mission make me stronger and more confident in my path. 

We are looking for another member to add to the Ivory House team!!! We are growing fast and I want to spend as much time as possible doing what I love - photographing, connecting with others in our community and dreaming big. To do this, I need some support! I am in need of an Administrative Assistant with basic graphic design skills. The position is 15-20 hours a week with huge opportunities to grow both in skill set and responsibilities within the business. Pay will dependent on work experience. This job is best suited for someone just out of college looking to gain small business management skills or someone looking for a flexible work schedule in a fun, motivating boss-lady environment. 

What will the Admin be doing?!?! A little bit of everything. The Admin is the grease in the wheels, they are the jelly to my peanut butter. I'm looking for a Type-A, hyper-organized person to corral my big dreaming brain. Does this sound like you?

- Strong Organization Skills and Ability to Prioritize

- Must be able to work independently

- Positive Personality

- Basic Graphic Design Skills

- Excellent Phone and Email Skills

- Must Love Dogs and Food

- Team Player in every sense of the word

Day to day tasks include: Managing the Ivory House client management system, invoicing, scheduling, client communication, basic graphic design (tasks such as formatting photos for a blog, creating PDFS and basic album layouts). Basic knowledge of Photoshop and inDesign are desired, or a strong desire to learn independently while on the job. 

If you wish to apply, or know someone who would love this opportunity, follow this link to apply. Please complete the application, then send a cover letter and resume to hello@ivoryhousephotography.com

Wednesdays With Whitney: Vanessa McNeal

“What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. And I’m especially proud, and inspired by all the women who have felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal stories.” - Oprah Winfrey at the Golden Globes

Over the past year, I have become increasingly aware of the power of my voice, of the resonance of my honesty and my ability to be a champion for others. Wednesdays with Whitney has morphed into this amazingly powerful platform for sharing, and I couldn't be more honored to see all the participation and engagement this segment receives. I love hearing the reactions from my Facebook friends who tune in every week to see what's next.  Together, we've helped share and promote so many people's stories and dreams, trials and triumphs.

Today we dove deep into a tough topic. I think my audience was ready and I know I'm ready to start making a bigger impact.

Vanessa McNeal is a powerhouse. At the age of 24, she is already a national speaker, film producer, and business owner. Her critical acclaims range from "Best Director" to "Woman of Tomorrow." She has overcome adversity from a very young age and has turned that adversity into her passion. This woman is already making huge waves with her honesty and bravery and today she shared her story and mission yet again, in hopes of garnering support for her latest project Gridshock. 

A little bit about Vanessa: 

Vanessa is a survivor. Neglected and continually molested throughout childhood and then sexually assaulted at a college preparatory program at the age of 15, Vanessa was forced to overcame the many faces of rape culture. Despite of all this, Vanessa overcame the shaming and silence that usually surrounds sexual assault victims. She was the first in her family to graduate high school and went on to pursue her bachelor’s degree at Iowa State University. She received her Master’s degree in Social Work at the University of Northern Iowa. In 2017, Vanessa founded her production company McNeal Media with the goal of creating social change through the art of storytelling and has experienced much success in her business.

Words from Vanessa:

I took a human sexuality class my Freshman year at ISU. My professor took the time to define sexual violence. She also defined molestation.  She followed these definitions by sharing her personal story of being a  survivor of sexual violence. This was the first time in my life I had a name for my experience. That moment gave me power. It totally changed my life. I had lived my life thinking I was the only one who had experienced these violent acts. My professor stood in front of our class with no shame and owned her experience. She wasn't a victim. She was a survivor and I wanted to be that too. She gave me the confidence to own my story and stand powerfully in my experience. That's when I started the work of healing. 

I spent my college years healing and growing.  Then one night a friend asked me, "What do you want your legacy to be?" No one had asked me that question before. The seed was planted. I went home inspired. Already I knew my legacy would be driven by my desire to share my personal story with anyone and everyone I could.

I got into film senior year of college. Film is such a powerful form a storytelling. The realization that I could share I could share my story in documentary form took hold and I started reaching out to local filmmakers. With their help, I was able to share my story 6 months later in documentary form. I was overwhelmed by the support I received. It was in that moment I knew I wanted to create social change through film. I have produced a short film and a feature-length documentary about male survivors since then. I have been able to touch so many people with my story and the stories of others.  

Vanessa's next documentary project is a feature length film bringing awareness to the underground sex trafficking industry in Iowa. Thats right folks. Our state is one of the most profitable places for the buying and selling of HUMANS for sex. The stories Vanessa has shared with me are shocking and horrifying. I want to close my ears and run away - but that is exactly the opposite of what I'm going to do. Instead, I'm asking for us to stand together, to demand something better and require consequences for these depraved and disgusting actions. I'm asking you to donate to the creation of Gridshock, a documentary that is sure to turn heads and bring the hammer down on all who participate in this terrible cycle. Thank you in advance for your action. Together, we are stronger. Together, we make change. 

Wednesdays With Whitney: Empowerment Session Winner

I was overwhelmed by the beautiful nominations received for the Empowerment Session Campaign. The idea, to give one deserving woman her day in the sun. Show one stunning woman how beautiful she is, inside and out. What started out as awarding a complimentary creative portrait session, quickly morphed into something bigger. More women wanted to contribute to the contest and give away their time and talents. 

The Empowerment Session team consists of Ivy Boyd, makeup artist extraordinaire; Sarah Noll Wilson, leadership coach powerhouse; and Christina Davis, personal stylist and Cabi consultant. The grand prize package: a complimentary two-hour clothing session with Christina, makeup application with Ivy prior to the photo shoot, and a 90 minute creative portrait session with me.

The lucky winner, Mary Bacon, was nominated by her daughter Angela Ames. Mary is a fighter, survivor and the epitome of selfless. In her daughter's words:

"My mother is so beautiful...let's start by in 2005 she beat stage IV breast cancer. She is legally blind but spends endless days making blankets for those in need. She has a rare form of leukemia that fights against her healthy blood cells as well as her good, in addition to currently waiting her chance for a new kidney and finally beating colon cancer. To say my mother is strong would be an understatement. A woman that should be full of life resentment, she actually just wants to do what she can to get back home to keep working on blankets! This woman is incredible!!! She doesn't fuss over the little things, because to her "that's life" and "well that's the stuff that God gave her to deal with." She's so beautiful, her eyes are a stunning blue, and she could really use a day about her, to highlight how amazing she is."

"She is a true definition of humanitarian , a warrior, but above those an amazing mother. Because she never gives up. She sees ten paths to a way out of a dead end. Her girls mean everything to her, nothing, not even being told that she has a few short months to live would keep her from encouraging her girls to do what makes them truly happy."

"I recently moved to California, taking her beloved grandchildren (boys 8 & 7) 1600 miles away. My husband took a new job. My mom would never stand in the way of someone wanting to move closer to their dreams. Most grandmas would be devastated but not my mom. She put her own feelings aside! She misses my husband (who she loves very much, she misses her grandsons but she just says, 'I have to get better so I can come visit.' This woman is truly a blessing to anyone that has her in their lives!"

I drew additional names for extra prizes. Amanda is the winner of a Professional Portrait Session. She was nominated by her sister-in-law. A snippet from her nomination:

"I have known Amanda (my sister-in-law) since she was in high school. She nearly died when I was dating her brother (now my husband) due to long-qt syndrome, which is a heart issue. She had a pacemaker put in when she was 16. It completely changed her trajectory in life. She has always been an active, giving and outgoing individual but has had many obstacles put in her way. On her journey to realizing how strong she is, she built her life up around what she can and can not do (physically) given her heart condition. In the last year, she also has been diagnosed with alopecia. Amanda’s beauty comes from her love of others and her beautiful smile. When she smiles you can’t unsee how beautiful she is. It’s incredible contagious. As a case worker for Broadlawns, she brings her beauty and strength to the lives of those who are less fortunate. While this work is difficult and challenging, she manages to do it with extreme care and grace, that most can not. This is exactly what makes her beautiful and strong at the same time- her very giving heart."

Last but not least, Teresa Tomka is the winner of a $100 Cabi gift card. She was nominated by a friend. The three adjectives used to describe Teresa:

"1) Strong - so strong. She lost her husband in a sudden, tragic accident. She has five children. She owns a business. STRONG. 2) Giving. She gives back her resources, her time, her laughter. 3) And speaking of laughter, this lady is F-U-N! An evening with her is an evening laughing."

Thank you to everyone who took the time to nominate a woman. You are incredible for taking the time and recognizing the powerful women in your life. All participants, nominees and nominators, are receiving the opportunity to participate in a Championing Workshop. 

Words from Sarah Noll Wilson on the workshop: 

"Do you build up or break down? Learn how to powerfully acknowledge and build up those around you. 

Everyone is capable of greatness and everyone is capable of revealing greatness in others.  Think about this, in every moment you impact those around you, is it the impact you want? By being a powerful champion for others you help others see their most powerful self even when they can't see it themselves. Join us for this transformative workshop where you will learn and practice the skills to be a champion for others and yourself too!

Wednesdays With Whitney: Karla Walsh

Words from Whitney:

So how do you appreciate your body? How do you say, "hell yes" to the skin you live in? For me, it's wearing bright colors and attention grabbing clothing and NEVER saying no when someone asks me to be in a photo. For other people, it's baring it all in a boudoir inspired Empowerment Session. 

I hear so many people talk about how empowering it can be to step in front of my camera and see yourself in a completely positive and affirming light. Facilitating this feeling is, hands down, the best part of my job. So when Karla Walsh asked if I would do a boudoir shoot with her, I jumped at the chance to help her feel super powerful and at home in her body. 

I don't have a bed in my studio, so instead, we focused on what made Karla feel the strongest and most powerful. For her - that meant her lady boss, custom tailor suit jacket with a corset and a pair of tight jeans. It also meant a tight dress and bra and pantie set - but that was secondary to the first powerhouse outfit. At the end of the day, what Karla wore was hardly the sexiest part. It was her courage and vulnerability that made the real impact. 

Thank you Karla, for always taking risks. For putting yourself out there so that others will have the confidence to do so. Your courage inspires us all. 

Words from Karla:

"Thank you so much for the inspiration and push you just gave me—and more women out there just like me." 

"I hope you are moved to shift or at least reconsider your relationship with your body after reading this article." 

Comments like these made it all oh-so-worth-it to bare my empowerment photos (and the story behind them—no pun intended) on Shape.com. 

Whitney, a magician behind the camera and in front of all humans, made the experience one with zero intimidation and all the body acceptance. Finally. After more than a decade of nitpicking at any spot with a hint of curve, I was able to see my body for what it was. A powerhouse that can row for 10,000 meters. A tool that can transport me by foot for miles. A means to give the very best hugs to all I love. I only wish every individual could see her body with as much love as I did the day my story hit the site.

Empowerment Portrait Session: Christina Davis

My first encounter of the amazing Christina Davis was at a "First Impressions" workshop she delivered at my very first FemCity Des Moines event. To no surprise, she made an excellent impression and I knew instantly that I wanted to work with her. Christina is dynamic. She draws people in with her immense confidence and kindness. She practices what she preaches in every way. Her business, Outside-In Consulting specializes in defining personal branding for her clients and offering a streamlines presentation of self, both in business and life. Christina also has a big heart and will be contributing her styling talents to her the winner of our Empowerment Portrait Session and I can't wait to see how her way of empowering women influences our winner. Nominate your empower women here! 

As a mom to two delightful daughters, I find myself talking a lot about what others see.  "Mind your table manners, say please and thank you, look people in the eyes when you speak to them, people before technology, brush your hair, brush your teeth and finally, YES, if that makes you feel beautiful, you should wear it."

If an outsider were to listen in on this dialogue, they might begin to think I'm teaching my children to focus on what others think - that the world is judgmental or we should work hard to impress others.  I believe there is another important truth to all of this.  

My children's funny, engaging personalities are huge and attractive parts of who they are. But other than my core job of teaching them to be good people, I am also teaching them how to best communicate who they are.  What we say, how we look and act, sends a message to the world.  Others are deciding, do I want to know them more or not?  Are they "my people"?  Are they kind, thoughtful or not? Are they genuine? Do they LOVE non matching socks? When I coach my kids, I call this parenting. As we get older, this attention to detail is called personal branding. 

Kelly Marble, Outside-In Consulting Client

Our image, what we convey outwardly, otherwise known as our brand, provides these future opportunities to connect. Setting intention behind our personal brand is empowering and gives us control over who we draw to us. Clothing is a huge part of personal branding. A unique and authentic look is empowering, not just for ourselves but for others to witness. We are able to send a message about who we are by how we are put together. What do people see? Creativity, spunk, attention to detail? Someone happy and alive? Someone tired and haphazard?

Sommer Sharon, Outside-In Consulting Client

If we use personal branding to reflect our true selves accurately to others, we have a high likelihood of attracting those with whom we can have true and meaningful relationships, both in our professional and personal lives.

I am SO excited to offer a two hour clothing consultation to the winner of Ivory House Photography's Empowerment Portrait Session giveaway. I think this is the perfect opportunity for a deserving woman to pamper herself head to toe and really take a moment to take inventory of her power to enable her to design her ideal personal brand for the camera!