Young Women's Resource Center: Fall $100 Headshot Partner

When Samira was sixteen years old, she found out she was pregnant. “I was so scared,” she told me. Her older sister was also early in her own pregnancy, and it was not lost on Samira how differently the sisters’ news was received because of Samira’s young age. “My family thought I wasn’t going to get as much help as I’d planned, that I would drop out of school, and things would just be so terrible for me. But I actually ended up graduating early.”

Pictured: Samira looking stunning.

This was no small feat, and Samira’s success was made possible by a whole community of people. Samira’s mom was the one to first help her look for resources for pregnant teenagers in the Des Moines area, and they found the Young Women’s Resource Center. Founded in 1978 with the belief that every girl deserves a life of possibilities, the YWRC has spent the last nearly four decades achieving its mission of supporting, educating, and advocating for girls and young women ages ten to twenty-one, empowering them to be strong, self-confident, and resilient. 

Samara with her daughter, nephew and baby son.

Through a wide variety of programs tailored to fit each individual’s unique needs, the YWRC serves over 2,000 participants in daytime, evening, and summer programs with the overall goal of teaching healthy, resilient decision-making.

The Empowerment Program provides small groups and individual therapy to help young women improve their self-esteem, develop healthy relationships, and understand reproductive health. The Young Moms program, which Samira joined, supports teen mothers and their children through education on how to achieve a healthy pregnancy, parenting skills, self-sufficiency, and the importance of education. All of the programming at the YWRC fosters community involvement, positive thinking, setting goals, self-care, stress management, building communication skills, and finding a sense of purpose.

The organization employs fifteen full-time staff members who are all trained in trauma-informed care, and facilitators utilize evidence-based curriculum. All programs are provided at no cost with free transportation and meals or snacks available for on-site groups. In order to reach underprivileged and underserved young women in the greater Des Moines area, the YWRC intentionally partners with schools, teachers, counselors, success workers, and other agencies.  Their clients are often survivors of trauma, assault, abuse, or mental illness, which have a significant and long-term impact on the mental health and overall wellbeing of the women in our community. The current COVID-19 pandemic is escalating destructive conditions at home, so it is critical that the YWRC is able to ensure continued programming and support to those participants who are at the highest risk. 

Aya, age 5 was a great model.

For Samira, it was the Young Moms program alleviated the burden of young motherhood, supporting her throughout her pregnancy, the birth of her daughter, Aya, and ever since.  “I really like our group. When I was pregnant, they gave me a lot of information about what would happen when I gave birth, and I never knew a lot of that,” she says. “I ended up having to get a C-section, but I wasn’t scared because I was prepared. They were also very supportive during recovery, always checking in to see how I was doing.” In addition, her group helped her figure out her sleep schedules, how to coordinate school and work with a new baby, even how to find daycare.

Samira says one of the best things the YWRC did was advocate for her when the medical team at the hospital was not giving her all of the information she wanted. Doctors often overlook their younger patients, particularly during delivery, making it very difficult to navigate while in a vulnerable position. To Samira, the whole experience seemed very transactional and impersonal. Since then, she has switched hospitals, thanks to the support of her peers and mentors at YWRC. 

In order to finish high school, Samira had to complete her last credits after her baby was born. She woke up at 6 AM every day to take the bus (along with her stroller and baby) to school. She graduated months ahead of time, finishing school in February, but walked the stage in May with the rest of her class. “I was sobbing, I was so relieved,” she recalls. “It was so hard but I am so glad I did it.”

One of the cornerstones of the YWRC’s curriculum is teaching resilience, which is a key factor in determining the success of each participant. Samira recognizes her own resiliency through her ability to go with the flow. “Sometimes things get really overwhelming, but I just have to take it one day at a time. I can try to control the situations by my decisions and actions. When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, my son Asaiah, I was excited but it had been a while. It felt good to go back to my pregnancy group and relearn all that information.” 

There were a lot of cute baby kisses happening!

But this time, of course, was a little bit different. “I was glad they offered me a doula because it was in March, during the pandemic, and I wasn’t allowed any family in the room during the birth.” This time around, the consistent support and advocacy provided by the YWRC made all the difference in what felt to Samara like a whole different experience. 

The YWRC continues to be an asset to Samira’s family. “If I run out of things for the baby, they’re the first ones to tell me that they can get these things for me as soon as possible.”

“The Young Women’s Resource Center is going to support you, they’re going to be your advocate for a lot of things. Especially if you’re pregnant and going through school, or if there’s something you want to do, they will find ways for you to be able to do it. If you’re scared, or if you’re speaking up for something, they will stand behind you.”

Join the Ivory House Photography team in support this amazing mission. We will be holding fifty $100 Headshots, giving away $10 from each of these session fees. In addition to this, we will be giving $5 from every additional extra file purchased from your session.

Get on the waiting list to be the first to know when the sign ups go live on Sept 8th at noon!

Project Iowa: Our spring $100 Headshot Partner

Last week, I had the privilege of photographing a group of incredible women and men who are embarking on their own unique journeys into the workforce. These humans make up the latest graduating class from Project Iowa, a nonprofit organization that, among many other things, helps to match employers with people seeking stable, fulfilling jobs in our community.

Julie Fugenschuh, Executive Director of Project Iowa

“At Project Iowa, we strive to help people align purpose and passion with employment,” says Executive Director Julie Fugenschuh. “We believe finding a career that clicks with your values means you’ll stay in the position, ultimately providing security and stability in your life. [The program} is more about a person’s mindset rather than their skillset.”

Every three months, Project Iowa welcomes a new group of students for their three-month program (which is free of charge) teaching them how to excel in job interviews, write an effective resume, network, while also integrating wellness principles and digital skills.

There is so much more than tactical training happening in this program, and it’s evident in the photos I took of the students on the eve of their graduation. The emotional difference Project Iowa provides is far, far beyond simply finding a job. The transformation is both professional and personal: People who go through this program have more confidence, resources, accountability, and physical and mental wellbeing.

Jane, graduate of Project Iowa’s latest program.

“I was in such a bad place when I started this program,” says Shawna, another graduate. “Besides my kids, this was the best thing I’ve ever done. I thought the program was just about getting a job, but that’s the least of it. It teaches you to recognize your thoughts so that you can change your behaviors. Before, I tended to just go into survival mode. But now I’m figuring out who I was meant to be and who I’ve always been before I got so sidetracked.”

At Ivory House, we believe in finding passion and purpose in our work. Project Iowa’s holistic approach to job placement is completely different from the typical agency and aligned beautifully with the Ivory House mission and core values. Project Iowa believes when a job is well-suited to a person’s identity it also shapes their outlook on life. Meditation, yoga, nutrition, and stress management are all incorporated into the classes, which take place four times per week and run about two hours long. When we recognized the in-depth commitment to self it takes to complete the program, we were hooked and immediately on board with supporting Project Iowa.

“This program got me in touch more with my emotions,” says graduate Carrie. “I’ve always been a task manager, very task-oriented. It has helped me refine some of the emotional aspects of working that I’ve been missing for a while.”

“The biggest thing is changing the way you think and how that’s going to alter the way you act, which has been huge for me,” says Jane, one of the graduating students.

Shawna, graduate of Project Iowa’s latest program.

Tears from Shawna, seeing herself in the right light for the first time.

Students of the Project Iowa program come from every kind of background you can imagine. Whether it’s someone who’s been a stay-at-home mom for the past twenty years and looking to get back into the workforce, someone who’s been convicted of a felony, or someone just looking for a fresh start in a new field, virtually anyone would fit in and find value in the education.

A beautiful group of grateful souls, ready to take on the world with passion and purpose.

“There are no labels here,” Julie says. “You’re a person, you have value. No one in our program is a ‘felon,’ or ‘lazy,’ or any of those other labels people might feel ascribed to when they’re out hunting for a job. They do not define you as a person or a job candidate.”

Jane, totally rocking her photo shoot and leaning into herself fully.

“Project Iowa has helped bring out those parts of me that I didn’t know existed,” says graduate Christina, who traveled an hour each way to attend her classes. “I’m ready to apply for things I wouldn’t normally have applied for. I felt like there were a lot of barriers for me, like I shouldn’t even try. I felt like my past was my name, so I settled for minimum wage jobs.

Now I know that I have worth and hidden talents that can make a company more successful. My name is who I used to be, not who I am. Now I’m answering to new names. I’m worthy, and I have things to offer people.”

Christina, confidently captured.

For me, photography is my way to truly see people, and in this case, I was able to witness these graduates transformation. They have been doing the work for months, diving deep into themselves, removing road block and building new skills, but I know from personal experience, that change doesn’t feel real until you see it on the outside.

By photographing them, I was able to mirror their new mindset, label, title, career path and capture it in a photograph that will hopefully remind them of how far they’ve come. And in addition to simply celebrating their growth, having headshots taken was a brand-new experience for many of them. Stepping in front of a professional camera wasn’t something most of them were comfortable with — not because of cost, availability or usefulness, but simply because they had been denying themselves of the recognition.

“I was like, who gets headshots?” Christina laughed. “It made me feel important. It made me feel like I was someone to watch out for.”

“Last time I had my pictures taken was graduation,” says Shawna. “I felt like I could smile again. It’s so cool to be given a decent chance.”

The reactions are ALWAYS the best part.

“Whatever we do, we do it together,” says Julie. “It’s not just about what Project Iowa could do for you. It’s about who you have in your corner, in your community. We are part of your team. We are someone you can rely on, no matter what your goals are.”

We couldn’t have said it better ourselves. If you’re ready to be seen and support a great cause, grab one of our 80 $100 Headshot timeslots. At the time of publishing this blog, the session are already 50% sold out so DON’T hesitate to show yourself and your community who you are and what you’re capable of.

SPECIAL THANKS TO WHISTLER STUDIO and Anna Jones for donating the space for these shoots. If you’re ever in need of a gorgeous shooting space, with perfect light, we highly recommend.

Getting Personal with Olson-Larsen Galleries

I am a huge fan of art. I cover my walls with it at home, and I’m constantly looking for new pieces. I just can’t get enough. A few weeks ago, I stopped by Olson-Larsen Galleries in Valley Junction to chat with owner Susan Watts about our mutual love of all kinds of artwork, as well as the importance of framing your pieces.

The gallery’s storefront on the main drag in Valley Junction attracts the attention of people walking by. The large windows offer a peek directly into their gorgeous gallery space, filled with an ever-changing display of the work of various Midwestern artists. The building has been an art gallery since 1970, but today it also boasts a custom framing shop. 

The “small but mighty” team from left to right: Mark Goodrich, Frame Shop Manager, Susan Watts, Owner, Alyss Vernon, Gallery Manager.

Owner Susan Watts bought the business in 2010 from Marlene Olson, who had started it with Ann Larson back in the 70s. Susan had been a manager for seven years at that point, so she already knew what it would take to grow both the gallery and the framing side of the business as a staple in the Valley Junction commercial community. “Even though I was very familiar with the day-to-day things, the clients, and the artists, I was now the one making the final decisions. The buck stopped with me.” Susan and her “small but mighty” team work together to engage their clientele and keep their offerings fresh and accessible.

Because of their location, Olson-Larsen gets a lot of pedestrian business who are curious about their collections. The gallery features regional contemporary artists with whom Susan and her staff establish formal relationships, offering contracts and representation to benefit both sides. They love the fact that these artists can easily travel to Des Moines to attend their openings and engage with people. In addition to the gallery, they also have an alternative exhibition space to show off things like installations and sculptures. 

On both the gallery and framing sides, Olson-Larsen caters to a wide range of clients, from parents looking to frame their child’s artwork to corporate clients putting the final touches on a new office building. Their service-oriented business model is evident in the quality of products and the personal connections the staff establishes with many of their clients. 

“Building relationships is a huge part of the business,” Susan says. Some of their clients have been coming to Olson-Larsen longer than she’s worked there. Both the framing and gallery sides are highly individualized, she says. “It’s not like they’re going out to buy a sweater.” Purchasing something that speaks to you or choosing how to display a piece in a frame are deeply personal and subjective experiences, not to mention investments. Being able to understand each client’s desires and view the process from their perspective is something that the staff strives for.

Susan also advises all of her clients not to discount the importance of quality framing for those valuable pieces. If you don’t choose top-quality archival materials to preserve that piece, then you’re missing out on a big part of that initial investment, she says.

“I think that’s a really fun part about being here. It’s about what’s important to you, and we want to preserve it. We always tell people, everything’s valuable to different people for different reasons, whether it be a finger painting that your granddaughter did or a Picasso.” 

I worked with the meticulous Mark Goodrich to frame four very diverse new pieces of art I’d been itching to get up in my home. Each piece was considered both individually and within the context of the other art I already have in my house. I love working with professionals that have strong opinions and an eye for detail. This team had that in spades and I was able to relax and let the magic happen around me. The quality of the finished pieces is impeccable and they flow in my household so beautifully.

I found this dynamic duo in a thrift shop in Kansas City. I had been wanting to add original paintings to my collection and I felt absolutely drawn to the bold colors and simple abstraction of the human experience created by a young Cuban artist. We chose to frame them in a simple dark wood frame, bringing all the focus to the vibrancy of the work.

The second framed piece is four prints I cut out of a calendar I bought for $10 in Houston, TX. This isn’t expensive art. But I was drawn in by the colors, the intricacy of the line work and the subject matter. I’m a true believer that art doesn’t have to be found in a gallery. Beauty in art is assigned by the beholder, and I thought these prints were worth archival framing.

Last but not least is this sweet little print I picked up during an Adore your Walls print sale. I love this concept of $50 prints signed by the artist and Adore your walls owner, Liz Lidgett is so faithful in uplifting local artists. I love the simplicity of the white matte and white frame, really drawing the eye into the color and movement of the print. This piece is thriving in its clean white frame and chill environment.

The frame snob in me is SO pleased with how these pieces add to my home. Now I’m on the hunt for more art, and more wall space!

Learning to Be a Plant Parent

When I bought my new house and was preparing it to become both my home and work space, I realized that I needed to freshen the place up. To inject a little more life into these spaces that I was making my own, I asked Shylah, plant stylist at Des Moines’ Art Terrarium to come over and impart some much-needed advice on how plants can invigorate my space and, maybe more importantly, how I can be a good plant parent and keep them alive and happy.

Pictured: Andrea Metzler, owner and Shylah, plant stylist at Art Terrarium.

When Shylah came into my home to begin our consultation process, I think she knew right away that this space would benefit from some greenery. She is, after all, a professional plant stylist: a career she began recently when she realized that many people coming into the Art Terrarium shop wanting more plants in their lives but weren’t sure what or where or how. And with a background in art and event facilitation, she decided to let her creative spirit guide this burgeoning consultation business.

“Plant styling is a title I made up to describe a role where I show up with plants for people, and put those plants in places,” Shylah says. “For Whitney, having just moved into a new house, I get to be a part of the creative process that brings her home to life. It’s so special.”

We started room by room, identifying whether each will be a personal or work space, and what my goals are for each. Shylah assessed the amount of natural light that would be reaching every corner. (The lighting proved to be a bit challenging because of all the gorgeous mature trees around my house. I love them, but they sure block a lot of sunlight.) We also talked about how often I’d be able to pay attention to them and water them. This particular factor made me want to lean more minimalist. I didn’t want the chlorophyll of dozens of dead houseplants on my hands!

Shylah took down my goals and feedback on a notepad and returned to the shop to start pulling some plants that would be suitable for my space. “I worked with Whitney’s budget, picking out some specific things. Keeping her goal of moderation in mind, she wanted greenery in every space. This was a little tricky because they all had to live near the windows, but luckily there are many types of plants that thrive in lower lighting.”

She invited me to come check out what she had pulled and to bring in the few vases and vessels that I already had in mind to put plants in, plus pick out some more from the shop. I was so impressed by both their selection and by Shylah’s styling suggestions that my initial impulse to keep things minimal went straight out the window.

When she brought the plants over to my house to finally stage them, I could barely contain myself. The difference that a dozen or so fresh, green, lively houseplants made was unbelievable. I was totally hooked. And I might have mellowed out right then and there, but Shylah assured me so thoroughly that I can indeed keep these plants alive and thriving, beautifying my home and impressing friends and clients alike, and they looked so amazing in little groups, rejuvenating each room...well, I got more plants. I am now the proud parent of 33 happy plants, breathing life into every room in my house.

How, you may ask, did I go from killing cacti to confidently raising so many houseplants? I have Shylah to thank for that. On top of her wonderful styling skills, she gave me some very simple, straightforward advice that seemed to take the mystery out of plant parenting.

Shylah’s Simple Tips for Raising Houseplants

1. Most of the problems with plants come from overwatering them. People think that watering them equals caring for them, when in fact, most plants just kinda want to be left alone.

2. Light = food, so pay attention to how much your plant is getting. South-facing windows get more direct light than north, so stage your plants accordingly.

3. Plants are very resilient. If you notice them turning yellow, it’s most likely either from overwatering or not giving them enough light. Move them around in your home and find a spot that makes them happier.

4. Having daily contact with your plants gives you a chance to check the soil, prune any dead leaves, and make sure they don’t have dust building up. This also ensures that you are watering them as needed, and not just when you think about watering them.

5. Practice with your plants. Don’t be afraid of killing them, and don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. There are lots of great resources on the Art Terrarium website, plus the folks at the shop love sharing their plant knowledge!

If you’re still unsure whether plants are right for you (spoiler: they are), or are looking for someone to come in and tell you exactly what plants you should get, where to put them, and how to care for them, Shylah is your gal. Check out this great new styling service here and start the process of elevating your home or office space. The best part is, their $75 consultation deposit is redeemable toward your plant purchase of $350 or more. Shylah also does plant rentals and staging work for parties and large events.

I can’t thank Shylah enough for her styling skills, advice, laid-back approach to plant parenting, and most of all, her confidence in me. If I can successfully care for 33 plants in the middle of my nonstop schedule, anyone can!

Keynote Address for the 2018 Dress For Success Luncheon

Yesterday, I had the privilege of delivering the keynote address at this year’s Dress For Success luncheon. (If you have not heard of this amazing organization, do yourself a favor and check out the incredible work they do every day to empower women in our community and around the globe.) I was nervous the whole time I prepared for this speech, right up until the moment I climbed up to the stage. But as soon I looked out over the audience and saw so many familiar, supportive faces (including my mother’s), I knew that this day was about so much more than getting over my nerves. Read on for my full speech, and find links here and here to learn more about our incredible experience with the inspiring, impactful women of Dress For Success.

Hi Friends,

It is truly an honor to stand in front of you today. Thank you for having me and for supporting this amazing organization. The video you just watched was the culmination of a few months of planning, lots of happy tears, and the hard work and talent of many willing hearts.

Under the direction of Executive Director Jody White, founding partner Theresa Choi, the boots-on-the-ground service of Nicole Sickels, and Board leadership of Christine Osborne, Dress for Success serves as a guiding light for so many women looking to better themselves and further their professional careers. When searching for a female-empowering non-profit to partner with, there truly was no other option in my mind than Dress for Success.

The women in this video are participants of Dress for Success’ Professional Women’s Group. These women have worked hard on their lives, making changes, setting goals, and working their way toward personal success. But progress is hard to see from the inside. While supporters congratulate us on massive milestones and achievements, we’re still bogged down in the everyday experience of our own journeys.

I believe in my gut that a powerful portrait is transformative for the participant. Having an image that reflects your worth and value serves to reinforce your worth and value. The idea of playing a small part of the Professional Women’s Group’s journey to success – of being someone who could reflect and reinforce all their hard work, perseverance, and value – that idea excited me!

The day of the Dress for Success shoot, we had 10 women arrive, bravely willing to take a risk with us. In addition to my own team, I had arranged for three hair and makeup teams plus a videographer to be on site to create and capture the experience. By the time the women arrived in my studio to be photographed, they were glowing. It was apparent that the attention of my amazing colleagues had succeeded in making them feel truly beautiful. These women had just experienced the luxury of sitting for two hours, having professionals fussing over every detail of their appearance. If you’ve ever had your hair or makeup professionally done, you will understand just how amazing it is to be pampered in this way.

As I started in on my process, assuring them that I would do all the work, that all they had to do was follow directions, I could still see the apprehension in their faces. Can I do this? Will I like the way I look? Will I like the way I am represented?

As I turned the camera around to show them their powerful presence on the small screen, I had the pleasure and pride of seeing their whole demeanor change. Some women cried, putting their hands up to their mouths or waving the tears away from their eyes to keep their makeup in tact. Every single person had a variation of the same reaction: “…Wait, that’s me? That professional, boss-lady of a woman in that photo, that’s me?”

It was in that moment, a small shift in their demeanor, a sudden and real mental realization, that they were, in fact, already the professional women they had been striving so hard to be.  

I see some of the faces of these women in the audience today. I’ve had the chance to touch base with a few of them. Jasmin was recently on Wednesdays with Whitney with me, and is moving ahead full-force in realizing her dreams of owning her own business. Randi recently got a new job and was able to proudly use her headshot for their website. These women both verbalized to me how transformative our experience together was for them. How with one click of a button, one moment in time I captured as proof of what they had always hoped to be, I could turn the camera around and show them how much grit they had in them and how much potential they had yet to realize.

You see, this moment they were having. This is the moment I get to witness all the time. Those of you who have shot with me, and I see so many of your amazing, supportive faces in this room, you know that I take control of the situation and assure you that you can’t mess it up. I’m there to guide you and coax out all that brilliance and beauty you’ve been hiding under modesty and reservation. I live for the moment when I turn my camera around and my client gasps or sighs with relief, acknowledging that for perhaps the first time, they feel like they’ve truly been captured. They feel like they can relax, because somebody sees them for who they are, somebody sees their worth and has captured it on camera.

I often say, modesty has no place in my presence. Whatever you are good at, I want to know about. I encourage people to brag to me. Tell me what you’ve accomplished. Tell me your big dreams. Be bold in front of me. Be unapologetically extra. That is what the Dress for Success women were that day. They were bold, beautiful, polished, and completely and totally themselves.

Who out there in this audience has declined to be photographed? I won’t make you raise your hands, but I’m fairly certain I would see around 400 arms in the air, and mine would be one of them. Can you hear the words you say to yourself when you make a quiet excuse to step out of the frame? I can pretty much guarantee that the words you just said to yourself are not words you would say to your best friend or your child. These words are the foundation for the apprehension and the mindset we bring when we’re  being photographed. This is the hurdle we set out for ourselves. This is the hurdle I am there to coach you over.

I see it as my duty and honor to create space in my studio. Space for the people who enter to truly be themselves, to dig into their power, their presence, their ability to stop traffic and command attention. I hope to create a space where people can prove to themselves that all the good, amazing, powerful things they say to themselves are, in fact, true. And then, together, we create visual proof of their power.

We encounter situations every day where we are forced to either prove our worth, advocate on behalf of our worth, or resign ourselves to the thought that we are not, in fact, not worth it. That the job we didn’t get an interview for, the text we didn’t receive after a 3rd date, or the work meeting where your idea was ignored…. That these moments validate our deepest insecurities. And that little shadow of self-doubt creeps in, whispering to us that perhaps we are not worth it.

Then imagine you have been incarcerated or physically and emotionally abused by someone who, at one point, you said yes to loving. Imagine if you had a mother who told you you weren’t enough, or a father who left and never called. Many of you in this room don’t have to imagine these scenarios. You have lived them, breathed them, struggled to overcome them, and somehow, miraculously, come through on the other side. You have woken up every morning and decided to continue, decided to keep fighting, to keep being yourself.

But that question, that nagging question, am I worth it? Am I valuable? This is the question we never verbalize, but it affects every single action and decision we make. This is the question that is the hardest to answer because we have to do for ourselves, by ourselves. And we need tools to be able to make the right decision.

So what are these tools? The pathways to deciding that you are worth it? I’m afraid it seems, like so many of life’s mysteries, there is no right answer and no paved path. Everyone reaches the curve in the road to self love at a different point, with different pit stops and U-turns.  

But today I’ll give you my strategy. This is not foolproof. I fail at giving myself credit and validating my own worth almost as many times as I succeed, but I do believe that these strategies have propelled me forward and brought me to stand in front of you today.

Number one: Take small risks.

Two years ago, I started planning out a weekly video segment. I even pulled out a video camera and did a few interviews around town with the intention of cutting and splicing until the content was perfect and I felt “comfortable” with the outcome.

It should come as no surprise to you that you’ve never seen those first few episodes of Wednesdays with Whitney, because they were never produced. My need for perfection, my insecurity that I would look bad on video or say something inappropriate held me back from producing a final product.

A year of this dance passed, and I realized I was playing chicken with myself and that I had to step it up. I made a commitment to myself to start taking one small risk every week. And that’s how my Facebook Live series, Wednesdays with Whitney, was born. Because I decided I was worth it. I trusted (or hoped) that I could do it. And that any mistake I made would be worth the risk.

I am now 56 Wednesdays into this risk, and this weekly series has given me so much. It taught me all about the beautiful repercussions of generous collaboration. It taught me the value of  planning ahead, and preparing content and guests for weeks in advance. It taught me to ease up on my vanity, and that the show must go on. I have filmed Wednesdays with Whitneys wearing no makeup, wearing the same outfit I wore the day before, on very little sleep and after an outburst of tears, sometimes all of these things at the same time. But I don’t skip a week. And so many of you continue to watch and support me and even join me on camera.

So what is that one risk you’ve been playing chicken with? What is the thing you want to do, that takes a little bit of effort and feels a little uncomfortable? I encourage you to do it. Do it and then honor your risk by allowing that risk to turn into habit. And then let your habit build you up to your next risk. And then you take another leap because you’ve built up trust in yourself.

Number Two: Reach your limits.

There are lots of books and quotes out there telling us to be kind and gentle with ourselves, to let ourselves be and do what we can. I personally don’t subscribe to that philosophy. I think the best way to learn our limits is to reach them, and then figured out how to get beyond them.

I encourage you to figure out what is creating your limits. Because very often, what we see as external or permanent is simply a limit we allow ourselves to observe. Our society sets out arbitrary measures of success. And it is my opinion that the bar is set fairly low. Once you reach these benchmarks, we are encouraged to slow down, sink in, and get comfortable.

You have a notecard in front of you. I ask you at this time to write down your limit. Let this be a gut reaction. Be bold on this page. It is today’s playground.

Now take a look at your limit. What is stopping you from going past it? Do you need to take a risk? Make a plan? Ask for help? Or do you simply need to shake the dirt off, get out of your Netflix binge cycle, and realize that you get to set your own limits?

Change doesn’t live in comfort, and neither does impact. To have an impact, you have to jump and you have to land hard on your goal. To make an impact, people have to see that you leapt, hung out in the sky for a while, and then came down directly on your mark. To make an impact, you have to first decide that limits are yours to define.

Number Three: Have a mantra that reinforces both your beauty and your ability.

My mother gave me a great gift when I was younger. She told me at every downturn and every precipice of decision or disaster, “everything always works out” for you.”  Now, this was not told to me because I was lucky, or she would save me, or that life would be easy, but because she wanted me to believe that I had control over my destiny. That if I believed everything could work out, I would take all the necessary steps to ensure that it did work out. My mom has continued to repeat this mantra to me as I’ve experienced every moment (or month) of crisis and self-doubt. As I’ve had to build and rebuild and use every last ounce of my strength to reach my goals. My mom is the creator of my mantra, but it is my job, responsibility, and right to make this mantra work for me.

She also told me consistently and without hesitation that I am beautiful.

“I am beautiful.”

I’d like you to take a moment and repeat those three words in your head. Just those three words. No caveats and no rebuttals.

When I look at myself in the morning, I try first to think that I am beautiful, before I think anything else. And when the barrage of harsh secondary thoughts start flooding in, of all the things I could do to elevate or improve upon that beauty, of all the times I have failed my body and myself by not living up to my own standards, I try my best to go back to the beginning and remind myself that I am beautiful. I think this belief and knowledge of my own beauty is one of the reasons I’m able to encourage and coax out the beauty in my subjects.

So I encourage you to hold two mantras close. They don’t have to be mine, but they can be if they give you strength. The first mantra reinforces your capabilities. You are capable. You can achieve more than you ever thought possible. Things will always work out for you. The second affirms your physical worth, because I do believe we need to value ourselves physically just as much as we do mentally. And then repeat these things yourself daily, hourly, or by the minute if you need to hear it. Say nice things to yourself and let those nice things you say become your truth.

Thank you for going on this journey with me today. Thank you for nodding along and smiling up at me, for contributing every time I’ve asked. The amazing ability of the people of Des Moines to show up and support one another is the model on which I’ve built both my business and my life. You all have led the way, and I’m so honored to be a part of your journey.

Today, I got on this podium as a person who had never given a keynote address, as someone who was nervous that perhaps I wouldn’t do it right or wouldn’t meet my own, very high expectations. I’ll exit this stage proud, as someone who took a risk, surpassed yet another limit, and affirmed that I am beautiful and everything always works out for me. Friends, today I decided I was worth it and believe me when I say, you are, too.

The women of Dress for Success did a live suiting on stage of the lovely Q, whom I’d met at the Economic Centet for Success’ Dreambuilders Workshop. I can’t wait to see how far she’ll go!

Let's Chat Recycling with Ciji Mitrisin of RecycleMe Iowa

I still remember the feeling I had over 25 years ago, walking out of the grocery store with a wad of cash in my hands from collecting pop cans out of my dad’s junk yard. This moment may have been the impetus to starting my business, but recycling has always played a role in my life: My parents were always telling us to turn off the lights, stop running the water while brushing our teeth, and heading to every garage sale in town (and I mean EVERY garage sale!). It was a way to save money so we could go on family vacations and take part in every sport and club that we wanted to. My passion for the environment, however, really clicked while living abroad in New Zealand. The country’s natural beauty will bring tears to your eyes. I recall the exact moment when I was enjoying the beauty surrounding me, only to look down and see piles of litter. Without thinking, I picked it up. The solution seemed so clear, the problem so easy to fix. Pick it up.

After leaving New Zealand, I relocated to Des Moines. Living in an apartment with no recycling was perplexing. This is a big town, I thought. Does that mean that no apartment tenants in the entire city have access to recycling? It became a topic of conversation at every social gathering, and I quickly learned that I was not the only one disappointed by the lack of options. The city provided curbside recycling to residences, so why not us? I started to get angry, and decided to direct my energy into doing something productive to solve this problem. I took on the fight to create better recycling options for the community, which I was growing to love more and more each day. In 2010, with a small group of motivated "eco-heroes," I started RecycleMe Iowa. 

We’ve heard the phrase “reduce, reuse, and recycle” a million times, but how well are we really practicing this? When you start separating your recycling from your trash, you see the difference one individual can make in the world. It’s my favorite conversation to have with a new recycler. It reminds me to keep challenging the waste industry, to make it economically viable so more jobs can be created, and to eliminate landfill-bound items like straws and styrofoam.

It takes time and commitment to form a habit, so I challenge my community, family, and friends to create an Earth Day resolution and make a change. Forgot your reusable bags in your car? Turn around and go get them. Get coffee everyday at your local coffee shop? Start bringing your own cup. See some litter on the ground near a trash or recycling bin? Pick it up and throw it away. There are so many simple solutions that each individual can use to make a real impact. I challenge you all to pick one new habit and stick with it for the full month of April. If you live in an apartment, work at a business, or plan events, get in touch with us at RecycleMe Iowa. We are here to help you live a greener life, and we always love talking trash!

Finally, as Whitney and I talked about in our video (above), we have our 8th birthday party coming up! We hope to clink drinks with you at our open house on Thursday, April 19th at CollaborateDSM (31st and Ingersoll) from 5:30-7:00 pm. Bring your business card for a chance to win prizes, too!

A note from Lucy:

I could not be more proud of my beautiful friend Ciji! She and I have been very close friends since I first moved to Des Moines in 2011. We met at a yoga class and bonded over our passion for sustainability. She's taught me so much about overcoming the challenges that small businesses and grassroots movements face, and has inspired me to make small changes in my own life that add up to major ones. She is always spreading her message with a smile and an open heart, willing to talk to anybody and everybody about the difference that they can make as just one person. Ciji, you are truly one in a million. I'm so proud to call you a friend, and can't wait to start kickin' trash and takin' names with you in April!

Getting (and Staying!) Organized with the Neat Method

My name is Sophie Gillotti, and I own Neat Method Des Moines, a luxury home organizing company that serves over 45 markets. We work closely with our customers to make bathrooms, kitchens, closets, nurseries, offices, pantries, and playrooms NEAT! We also specialize in moves and relocates. 

With a passion for detail and display, I personally enjoy creating shoppable spaces that are suitable for each client's specific needs. When we're finished with your space, it should feel like your own personal showroom. Being organized creates a more functional lifestyle.

Whitney came to me because she felt like none of the things in her studio had a home, and the clutter was taking over her workspace. I was delighted by the opportunity to help her get organized in order to establish a space that is functional for not only herself and her staff, but for all the clients coming through her doors.

I began by taking inventory of her things, where they were located and why.

Before photos of the snack area

I then removed all products and supplies from shelves, drawers, and the cubbies in her production area. (We made a huge mess, but that's the first step to becoming neat!) The next phase was to categorize, edit, and sort.

Sorting and editing everything is the scariest part, but it's all worth it in the end.

Once we had established the items that Whitney needed, we talked about how often each item was used so that I could lay out a plan where everything would have a home. After that, I went shopping for organizational items like boxes, folders, and card holders. 

The last step was to create cute labels to make it easy to identify where things go! These are great when there may be several different people putting things away at different times. It also helps to hold everyone accountable for putting things back in their proper place.

After photos of her snack area, cabinet drawer, shooting area, and production area cubbies

Working with Whitney was an incredible experience! She is very talented, her clients are extraordinary, and now she has a neat and tidy space that accurately reflects her business.

Convinced it's time to get Neat? Contact us at 515-326-0762 to set up a consultation! 

A note from Whitney:

Sophie came into my life at the perfect time. I was drowning in paperwork, office supplies, snacks, disposable silverware, Winston's paraphernalia, you name it! She was able to help me identify the things I could part with and the things that were truly benefitting my business and my space. It took a little bit to admit that I needed someone to save me from myself, but once I talked with Sophie about how to improve the situation, I was beyond thrilled. 

Sophie took the time and really invested herself in implementing a streamlined system for me. Her thoughtful details (like the labels!) make it so easy for everyone to keep things organized. I could never have accomplished this without her.

Dress for Success: The Gift of Confidence

I am so lucky. 

This is what I kept repeating to myself all day on Sunday, March 4th, 2018. 

I am so lucky to have this team of talented, generous people showing up to donate their time and talents to Dress for Success clients. I am so lucky to have a job and the flexibility to give my time and passions. I am SO LUCKY that I've never experienced true hardship. My privilege. 

Recognizing that, I jump at any chance of passing that luck and privilege on to others who might benefit from it. This event was one small way of providing confidence and support to women in our community who may not have always been so lucky. They say that when you can give a piece of yourself to someone else, it comes back to you tenfold. Never have I found this to be more true than with these portraits. I feel the love from that day every time I look at them, and I hope the feeling continues for a long time to come.

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A note from Lucy, Ivory House Photography's Studio Manager: 

The day began the way I expected: rushing to set out snacks and bottles of water, unlocking the doors, answering last-minute emails about the event. What’s the parking situation? Which street is the door on again? The stylists arrived with their ring lights and curling irons. Is there another outlet in this corner? No problem, I’ll set up in the kitchen. Jody White, Executive Director and Co-founder of Dress for Success, was all smiles as she introduced herself to everyone, warmly thanking each person for donating their Sunday to a great cause.

The Glam Teams, clockwise from top left: Ashley Maree Harvey (hair), Violeta, Natalie Gendle (makeup, ACADEMIC Lash & Beauty); Ivy Boyd (makeup, Ivy Boyd Makeup Artist + Beauty Blogger), Africa, Stacy Syroka (hair, Elevencherry); Desi Thompson (hair, Desi at Dolce), Jenny, Natalie Gendle (makeup, ACADEMIC Lash & Beauty); Kelsey Ziemann (makeup, Kelsi Ziemann Artistry), Jasmin, Kearra Chester (hair)

Whitney’s idea for a campaign to benefit Dress for Success originated before I came to work at Ivory House. Selling discounted headshots to her regular clients seemed like a great way to generate revenue that would allow for her to donate portraits to the clients of Dress for Success, an organization that empowers women to thrive professionally. She first mentioned this undertaking in my job interview back in January. Hearing her talk about the importance of elevating every member of the community made me realize that working at Ivory House was going to be much more than a nine-to-five job. Coming fresh from the corporate world, this was very appealing to me. 

My role on Sunday as Whitney’s studio manager was to manage the flow and make sure everyone was getting what they needed. I was anticipating a fast pace and lots of last-minute problem-solving, but as soon as the women began to arrive, it was clear things were going to go much smoother than I anticipated. The "Glam Teams," compromised of incredibly talented hair and makeup artists, were matched with a Dress for Success client. As anyone who’s been to a salon can attest, once the women were seated in their chairs and the pampering began, their stories began to pour out. 

There was Violeta, a legal assistant at Drake, who told me about the lifelong romance with her husband that started in their hometown in Mexico and brought them all the way to Des Moines.

Violeta

There was Sharon, who works in the crafts department at Walmart and who boasted that she has 13 great-grandkids. She honors the memory of her late husband, her sweetheart and the love of her life, by wearing their wedding rings around her neck. 

Sharon

After 10 years in school while also raising three kids as a single mom, Jasmin is going to graduate next year with her master’s degree in social work, and is currently working as self-sufficiency counselor.

Jasmin

Kimberly brought so much attitude and energy to the day. She kept us laughing the whole time, and her confidence shone through in every single photo that we took of her.

Kimberly

Angela, who I told that I would definitely ask for her ID at a bar, told me she’d been married for 14 years and has nine children. (Angela also told me an incredible story about her dog Capone, who’ll be receiving a medal of bravery next month.)

Angela

Africa opened up about her history of domestic violence and the strength it took to take her children and leave her husband to start over in a country where she barely spoke the language. 

Our interactions were brief, but the energy in the “glam room” was that of support and love. 

In the studio, Whitney was working her magic with each woman, making them feel confident and beautiful. Your hair is flawless! Oh my gosh you have the most perfect jawline. Yes, those eyes! You’re killin’ it! It wasn’t anything out of the ordinary for her when it comes to shooting any client who walks through the door, but today was different. These women have overcome obstacles and carried weight on their shoulders that we don’t know about, that maybe is only seen in their hesitance to meet the camera’s eye. Whitney took the time to make them feel beautiful, radiant, and cared for, and the proof is in their stunning images. The person who entered the studio was not the same person who emerged. 

The day came to a close with smiles and hugs of gratitude, exchanged phone numbers, and more than a few happy tears (my own included). Giving the gift of confidence to these women who have overcome so much in their lives, and providing them with a gorgeous portrait that they can share and keep forever, means just as much to us as it does to them. It's unbelievably rewarding when we're lucky enough to have the opportunity to share our skills and talents with others in the community. I'm so grateful to be with a company that values lifting each other up whenever we're able. As our stylist Kearra said, it's why we're on this planet.

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We couldn't have done this without the support of our amazing collaborators:

Jody White and Nicole Roe Sickels of Dress for Success Des Moines

The Glam Squad:
Kelsi Ziemann with Kelsi Ziemann Artistry
Ivy Boyd with Ivy Boyd Makeup Artist + Beauty Blogger
Natalie Sanger Gendle with Academic lash & beauty
Stacy Syroka independent stylist at Elevencherry
Ashley Maree Harvey independent hair stylist
Kearra Chester independent hair stylist
Desi Joelle with Desi at Dolce

And our kind and patience videographers (video to come): 
Caleb and Joe Stevens

And lastly, a huge thanks to the Ivory House team: Megan, Rachel, and Lucy.

Sarah Brown Wessling: Educator for Life

Sarah Brown Wessling makes an IMPACT.

I was a quiet high schooler, unsure of my mind and my place in the world. I participated on the periphery, preferring to watch rather than act. I spent my time reading and writing. My journals from these years are epic and hilarious and my book shelves were packed with well loved paperbacks. 

I entered Sarah's AP English class apprehensively. Her classroom was not a place to hide. Students will often say, "Ms. Wessling was the first person to SEE me," and I could not agree more with that statement. Outside of my family, who knew my sassy self to the core, Ms. Wessling was the first person to identify me as a strong thinking, a leader, and someone who could create for myself. 

Years later, while I was living in Rochester, NY and working as a photographer, Sarah contacted me via Facebook. She wanted my permission to share my journey and profession with her classroom. Again, my first reaction was, "Why me?" and again, Sarah was the first person to tell me that what I was doing was important and different. 

Sarah gave me the tools I need to think critically about my life and choices. Now that I own my own business, Sarah is right by my side, but now she occasionally asks my advice and seeks my guidance. I am able to walk beside her, giving knowledge as I receive. She is my cheerleader, challenger, thought provoker and festival buddy. She is my inspiration, my foundation and my reflection.

Words from Molly Hanson, Executive Director of Iowa River Revival: Class of 2005

Sarah is an amazing person for so many reasons. One of my favorite aspects of our relationship is how it has changed over and over again and will most definitely continue on that trajectory. 

I first met her as a student in her AP English class at Johnston High School. Being a recovering high school over-achiever, it still irks me a little bit to call her Sarah rather than Ms. Wessling.  I was an English nerd obsessed with moody beats writers. Sarah took an interest, always making a point of noticing me and whatever book I happened to be reading at the time.  I was always flattered that she cared and was impressed by my selections.  Her classroom pushed me out of my comfort zone, expanding not just my thoughts - but the way I thought. With her leadership, I was introduced to poetry, Shakespeare, symbolism, the male-dominated cannon, and perhaps most importantly for my career,  grant writing. I loved her AP English class and have since been back to help teach lessons in grant writing. 

With curiosity and adventure as two of my dominant forces, I went on to become a well-read science major. I am constantly in awe of the magnificence of the planet and our universe.  But even with my outdoorsy side, I still relish any opportunity to escape into a good book.  And I still love talking about them with Sarah.  Since high school, we have become friends.  We've danced at each others' birthday parties, gone on long runs to work through the stresses of adult life, swapped graphic novels, hung out with each others' families, and have motivated each other to push through challenges and examine what it means to be on the other side. She is still a mentor, but now she is also a peer, inspiration, confidant and a dear friend.  

At her 40th birthday party, Sarah made cards for each attendee containing the word that came to mind when she thought of them.  The word on my card was fearless.  Everyday, I try to live that truth she has seen in me for the last decade.  Her students, as well as her friends, are lucky to have her.  I am lucky to have her. 

Words from Meredith Luksetich, Animal Lover and Administrative Assistant at ISG, Class of 2009

Photographer: Polka-Dot-Photography by Annie Mitchell

I see myself as an articulate, big picture thinker. With every decision, I consider the whole scope of the problem. Where am I? Where do I want to go? Who do I want to be and how am I going to get there? Or, perhaps most importantly, am I already there? I attribute these bigger picture thoughts and questions directly towards Ms. Wessling's challenging classroom. 

Ms. Wessling always had a different way of teaching. I remember walking into her classroom and feeling as though I was finally breathing fresh air. In her space, I knew my ideas and my work were never wrong, but I could challenge myself to improve upon them. Now that I'm older and navigating adulthood, I find I find my brain multi-tasking and working through the best way to approach something or someone.

The biggest impact Mrs. Wessling made on me is how I think and create now that I'm an adult. I am more confident in public speaking, writing, and the way I read and comprehend not only the words on the page, but the world around me. She isn’t just teaching English at Johnston High School, she is teaching students how to think for themselves in the most creative and challenging ways - ensuring our future successful. I can say with confidence, that every student of Ms. Wessling is going to have a  strong, positive memory of Mrs. Wessling, whatever their ‘success’ might be.

Shane Hefty: Your Designated Dapper Dude

Meet Shane Hefty, Your Designated Dapper Dude

I met Shane the day he walked in for his photoshoot. I was so impressed by how prepared he was for the experience, especially given the lack of resources I had provided. He brought several suit and tie options that fit his personal brand and business goals. He had a fresh haircut and neatly trimmed beard.  

On top of being organized, he knew exactly what he was looking for in a successful photo, and together, we achieved his goals. When I started designing a Men’s Style Guide, I knew Shane was the best choice for advising on men’s fashion. The following pages are filled with great advice, not only on how to prepare for your headshots, but useful knowledge on where to get started in the wide world of men’s styling. Happy reading!

A NOTE FROM SHANE

People often ask if I own any clothes other than suits; many can’t recall ever seeing me in anything else, and in a number of cases close friends are shocked the first time they see me in a pair of joggers. A large part of my personal brand is being suited up at all times; even though I may be over dressed more often than not. My mantra when it comes to my personal attire is, “Dressing like the place you’re coming from or going to is more important than where you currently are.” 

Regardless of your profession, you need to look like you’re the best at what you do, whether it’s a server at a restaurant or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company. For some, that simply means clean clothes that fit well and are in line with the dress code of your employer. For others, that means a suit and tie, and for a broad swath of people, it’s somewhere in between. 

In the coming paragraphs, I’ll share a few key items every man should have in their closet, some grooming and tailoring tips, and finally, what you should wear to a headshot session with Whitney. Let’s get started!

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10 Closet Essentials

A Navy Suit

Navy suits are a great alternative to traditional black and are perfect for everything from job interviews to dates. Bonus: It’s versatile enough, you can wear the jacket as a sportcoat or the pants without the jacket.  

A White Collared Shirt

You need one perfect dress shirt to go with your perfectly tailored navy suit. If you’re of average build, always get a slim fit shirt. I buy most of my dress shirts online from Charles Thywhitt – great prices, quality and fit.

Brown and Black Lace-up Dress Shoes

You can buy the same shoe in different colors.  Brown will go with your navy suit and the black are more formal. This is an opportunity to invest, as well-made shoes can be repaired and last decades. I suggest leather soles and sticking to a classic style like a cap toe or wing tip.

Dark Blue Denim Jeans

Dark denim looks great with sneakers or dress shoes, t-shirts or dress shirts, cardigans or sport coats.  I prefer J. Crew’s or Levi’s 513 jeans – good quality, great fit, and they’re not $300. 

White V-Neck Undershirt

If you’re wearing a dress shirt without a tie or a polo shirt, select a v-neck tee.  The sleeves should hit your mid-bicep – if they don’t, it will affect the fit of your shirt. 

A White Pocket Square

A white pocket square is conservative and simple, but also shows that you pay attention to the details.  YouTube has great tutorials showing how to fold it in a square.  

A Grey Tie

A grey tie goes with everything from your suit to your jeans; it works for weddings and job interviews or on a first date with your white button down and dark jeans.  

A Gray Polo Shirt

A gray polo shirt is the short sleeve version of the white button-down shirt – it goes with everything.  You can dress down your navy suit or wear it to Sunday brunch. Try to find one without logos and try numerous brands on until you find one that fits perfectly.  A good fitting shirt hits mid-bicep and if you wear it untucked, it should hit just below your belt. 

Jack Purcell Sneakers

Jack Purcell was a badminton star who had his own converse sneakers, which looked similar to the ubiquitous Converse All-Stars.  The difference is the “smile” on the toe of the shoe.  These sneakers are simple and incredibly comfortable.  The colors are fairly subdued, so you can get them in navy, white, and grey.  I like white or grey, as they provide a nice contrast to the jeans or the navy suit. 

A Cardigan

You can wear a cardigans like a coat in the spring and the fall.  It’s like a sweatshirt, but dressy; if you get hot, it’s easy to take off.  It’s also a great substitute for a sport coat.  

Leveling Up: 

Invest in tailoring. I can’t emphasize this enough. It will make your investment in the suit and shirts that much more valuable. A good fit just as important as good quality material and construction. I recommend building a relationship with a tailor. J.D. at Frederick’s Tailoring in Clive is the best.  Tell him Shane sent you.

The Ivory House Photography Team

I started Ivory House Photography as a one-woman show, working out of my mom's house, hustling and hoping that someday I would have a team to support my big, big dreams. The ladies in the photo above are truly my right and left hands (Winston's just there for his good looks and snuggling abilities). 

Megan came to me my very first summer as a college intern. She showed up ready to work and always seemed to be available when I needed her. When I found myself in desperate need of a production assistant, she was the first person I turned to. Megan's diligence and commitment to quality can be seen in every image that leaves the studio. She has taken on every challenge and every task with such exuberance and excellence. Working with her is a dream. 

Rachel Peterson and I often joke that we have no idea how we met, but that meeting changed the game for Ivory House. Are you liking this blog? Do you enjoy Wednesdays with Whitney and my awesome Instagram feed? Did you find value in following along with the Empowerment Campaign!?! These momentous digital feats are all possible due to the type A brillance Rachel possesses. Her attention to detail and genuine passion for the Ivory House mission make me stronger and more confident in my path. 

We are looking for another member to add to the Ivory House team!!! We are growing fast and I want to spend as much time as possible doing what I love - photographing, connecting with others in our community and dreaming big. To do this, I need some support! I am in need of an Administrative Assistant with basic graphic design skills. The position is 15-20 hours a week with huge opportunities to grow both in skill set and responsibilities within the business. Pay will dependent on work experience. This job is best suited for someone just out of college looking to gain small business management skills or someone looking for a flexible work schedule in a fun, motivating boss-lady environment. 

What will the Admin be doing?!?! A little bit of everything. The Admin is the grease in the wheels, they are the jelly to my peanut butter. I'm looking for a Type-A, hyper-organized person to corral my big dreaming brain. Does this sound like you?

- Strong Organization Skills and Ability to Prioritize

- Must be able to work independently

- Positive Personality

- Basic Graphic Design Skills

- Excellent Phone and Email Skills

- Must Love Dogs and Food

- Team Player in every sense of the word

Day to day tasks include: Managing the Ivory House client management system, invoicing, scheduling, client communication, basic graphic design (tasks such as formatting photos for a blog, creating PDFS and basic album layouts). Basic knowledge of Photoshop and inDesign are desired, or a strong desire to learn independently while on the job. 

If you wish to apply, or know someone who would love this opportunity, follow this link to apply. Please complete the application, then send a cover letter and resume to hello@ivoryhousephotography.com

Wednesdays With Whitney: Vanessa McNeal

“What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. And I’m especially proud, and inspired by all the women who have felt strong enough and empowered enough to speak up and share their personal stories.” - Oprah Winfrey at the Golden Globes

Over the past year, I have become increasingly aware of the power of my voice, of the resonance of my honesty and my ability to be a champion for others. Wednesdays with Whitney has morphed into this amazingly powerful platform for sharing, and I couldn't be more honored to see all the participation and engagement this segment receives. I love hearing the reactions from my Facebook friends who tune in every week to see what's next.  Together, we've helped share and promote so many people's stories and dreams, trials and triumphs.

Today we dove deep into a tough topic. I think my audience was ready and I know I'm ready to start making a bigger impact.

Vanessa McNeal is a powerhouse. At the age of 24, she is already a national speaker, film producer, and business owner. Her critical acclaims range from "Best Director" to "Woman of Tomorrow." She has overcome adversity from a very young age and has turned that adversity into her passion. This woman is already making huge waves with her honesty and bravery and today she shared her story and mission yet again, in hopes of garnering support for her latest project Gridshock. 

A little bit about Vanessa: 

Vanessa is a survivor. Neglected and continually molested throughout childhood and then sexually assaulted at a college preparatory program at the age of 15, Vanessa was forced to overcame the many faces of rape culture. Despite of all this, Vanessa overcame the shaming and silence that usually surrounds sexual assault victims. She was the first in her family to graduate high school and went on to pursue her bachelor’s degree at Iowa State University. She received her Master’s degree in Social Work at the University of Northern Iowa. In 2017, Vanessa founded her production company McNeal Media with the goal of creating social change through the art of storytelling and has experienced much success in her business.

Words from Vanessa:

I took a human sexuality class my Freshman year at ISU. My professor took the time to define sexual violence. She also defined molestation.  She followed these definitions by sharing her personal story of being a  survivor of sexual violence. This was the first time in my life I had a name for my experience. That moment gave me power. It totally changed my life. I had lived my life thinking I was the only one who had experienced these violent acts. My professor stood in front of our class with no shame and owned her experience. She wasn't a victim. She was a survivor and I wanted to be that too. She gave me the confidence to own my story and stand powerfully in my experience. That's when I started the work of healing. 

I spent my college years healing and growing.  Then one night a friend asked me, "What do you want your legacy to be?" No one had asked me that question before. The seed was planted. I went home inspired. Already I knew my legacy would be driven by my desire to share my personal story with anyone and everyone I could.

I got into film senior year of college. Film is such a powerful form a storytelling. The realization that I could share I could share my story in documentary form took hold and I started reaching out to local filmmakers. With their help, I was able to share my story 6 months later in documentary form. I was overwhelmed by the support I received. It was in that moment I knew I wanted to create social change through film. I have produced a short film and a feature-length documentary about male survivors since then. I have been able to touch so many people with my story and the stories of others.  

Vanessa's next documentary project is a feature length film bringing awareness to the underground sex trafficking industry in Iowa. Thats right folks. Our state is one of the most profitable places for the buying and selling of HUMANS for sex. The stories Vanessa has shared with me are shocking and horrifying. I want to close my ears and run away - but that is exactly the opposite of what I'm going to do. Instead, I'm asking for us to stand together, to demand something better and require consequences for these depraved and disgusting actions. I'm asking you to donate to the creation of Gridshock, a documentary that is sure to turn heads and bring the hammer down on all who participate in this terrible cycle. Thank you in advance for your action. Together, we are stronger. Together, we make change. 

Wednesdays With Whitney: Empowerment Session Winner

I was overwhelmed by the beautiful nominations received for the Empowerment Session Campaign. The idea, to give one deserving woman her day in the sun. Show one stunning woman how beautiful she is, inside and out. What started out as awarding a complimentary creative portrait session, quickly morphed into something bigger. More women wanted to contribute to the contest and give away their time and talents. 

The Empowerment Session team consists of Ivy Boyd, makeup artist extraordinaire; Sarah Noll Wilson, leadership coach powerhouse; and Christina Davis, personal stylist and Cabi consultant. The grand prize package: a complimentary two-hour clothing session with Christina, makeup application with Ivy prior to the photo shoot, and a 90 minute creative portrait session with me.

The lucky winner, Mary Bacon, was nominated by her daughter Angela Ames. Mary is a fighter, survivor and the epitome of selfless. In her daughter's words:

"My mother is so beautiful...let's start by in 2005 she beat stage IV breast cancer. She is legally blind but spends endless days making blankets for those in need. She has a rare form of leukemia that fights against her healthy blood cells as well as her good, in addition to currently waiting her chance for a new kidney and finally beating colon cancer. To say my mother is strong would be an understatement. A woman that should be full of life resentment, she actually just wants to do what she can to get back home to keep working on blankets! This woman is incredible!!! She doesn't fuss over the little things, because to her "that's life" and "well that's the stuff that God gave her to deal with." She's so beautiful, her eyes are a stunning blue, and she could really use a day about her, to highlight how amazing she is."

"She is a true definition of humanitarian , a warrior, but above those an amazing mother. Because she never gives up. She sees ten paths to a way out of a dead end. Her girls mean everything to her, nothing, not even being told that she has a few short months to live would keep her from encouraging her girls to do what makes them truly happy."

"I recently moved to California, taking her beloved grandchildren (boys 8 & 7) 1600 miles away. My husband took a new job. My mom would never stand in the way of someone wanting to move closer to their dreams. Most grandmas would be devastated but not my mom. She put her own feelings aside! She misses my husband (who she loves very much, she misses her grandsons but she just says, 'I have to get better so I can come visit.' This woman is truly a blessing to anyone that has her in their lives!"

I drew additional names for extra prizes. Amanda is the winner of a Professional Portrait Session. She was nominated by her sister-in-law. A snippet from her nomination:

"I have known Amanda (my sister-in-law) since she was in high school. She nearly died when I was dating her brother (now my husband) due to long-qt syndrome, which is a heart issue. She had a pacemaker put in when she was 16. It completely changed her trajectory in life. She has always been an active, giving and outgoing individual but has had many obstacles put in her way. On her journey to realizing how strong she is, she built her life up around what she can and can not do (physically) given her heart condition. In the last year, she also has been diagnosed with alopecia. Amanda’s beauty comes from her love of others and her beautiful smile. When she smiles you can’t unsee how beautiful she is. It’s incredible contagious. As a case worker for Broadlawns, she brings her beauty and strength to the lives of those who are less fortunate. While this work is difficult and challenging, she manages to do it with extreme care and grace, that most can not. This is exactly what makes her beautiful and strong at the same time- her very giving heart."

Last but not least, Teresa Tomka is the winner of a $100 Cabi gift card. She was nominated by a friend. The three adjectives used to describe Teresa:

"1) Strong - so strong. She lost her husband in a sudden, tragic accident. She has five children. She owns a business. STRONG. 2) Giving. She gives back her resources, her time, her laughter. 3) And speaking of laughter, this lady is F-U-N! An evening with her is an evening laughing."

Thank you to everyone who took the time to nominate a woman. You are incredible for taking the time and recognizing the powerful women in your life. All participants, nominees and nominators, are receiving the opportunity to participate in a Championing Workshop. 

Words from Sarah Noll Wilson on the workshop: 

"Do you build up or break down? Learn how to powerfully acknowledge and build up those around you. 

Everyone is capable of greatness and everyone is capable of revealing greatness in others.  Think about this, in every moment you impact those around you, is it the impact you want? By being a powerful champion for others you help others see their most powerful self even when they can't see it themselves. Join us for this transformative workshop where you will learn and practice the skills to be a champion for others and yourself too!

Wednesdays With Whitney: Karla Walsh

Words from Whitney:

So how do you appreciate your body? How do you say, "hell yes" to the skin you live in? For me, it's wearing bright colors and attention grabbing clothing and NEVER saying no when someone asks me to be in a photo. For other people, it's baring it all in a boudoir inspired Empowerment Session. 

I hear so many people talk about how empowering it can be to step in front of my camera and see yourself in a completely positive and affirming light. Facilitating this feeling is, hands down, the best part of my job. So when Karla Walsh asked if I would do a boudoir shoot with her, I jumped at the chance to help her feel super powerful and at home in her body. 

I don't have a bed in my studio, so instead, we focused on what made Karla feel the strongest and most powerful. For her - that meant her lady boss, custom tailor suit jacket with a corset and a pair of tight jeans. It also meant a tight dress and bra and pantie set - but that was secondary to the first powerhouse outfit. At the end of the day, what Karla wore was hardly the sexiest part. It was her courage and vulnerability that made the real impact. 

Thank you Karla, for always taking risks. For putting yourself out there so that others will have the confidence to do so. Your courage inspires us all. 

Words from Karla:

"Thank you so much for the inspiration and push you just gave me—and more women out there just like me." 

"I hope you are moved to shift or at least reconsider your relationship with your body after reading this article." 

Comments like these made it all oh-so-worth-it to bare my empowerment photos (and the story behind them—no pun intended) on Shape.com. 

Whitney, a magician behind the camera and in front of all humans, made the experience one with zero intimidation and all the body acceptance. Finally. After more than a decade of nitpicking at any spot with a hint of curve, I was able to see my body for what it was. A powerhouse that can row for 10,000 meters. A tool that can transport me by foot for miles. A means to give the very best hugs to all I love. I only wish every individual could see her body with as much love as I did the day my story hit the site.

Empowerment Portrait Session: Christina Davis

My first encounter of the amazing Christina Davis was at a "First Impressions" workshop she delivered at my very first FemCity Des Moines event. To no surprise, she made an excellent impression and I knew instantly that I wanted to work with her. Christina is dynamic. She draws people in with her immense confidence and kindness. She practices what she preaches in every way. Her business, Outside-In Consulting specializes in defining personal branding for her clients and offering a streamlines presentation of self, both in business and life. Christina also has a big heart and will be contributing her styling talents to her the winner of our Empowerment Portrait Session and I can't wait to see how her way of empowering women influences our winner. Nominate your empower women here! 

As a mom to two delightful daughters, I find myself talking a lot about what others see.  "Mind your table manners, say please and thank you, look people in the eyes when you speak to them, people before technology, brush your hair, brush your teeth and finally, YES, if that makes you feel beautiful, you should wear it."

If an outsider were to listen in on this dialogue, they might begin to think I'm teaching my children to focus on what others think - that the world is judgmental or we should work hard to impress others.  I believe there is another important truth to all of this.  

My children's funny, engaging personalities are huge and attractive parts of who they are. But other than my core job of teaching them to be good people, I am also teaching them how to best communicate who they are.  What we say, how we look and act, sends a message to the world.  Others are deciding, do I want to know them more or not?  Are they "my people"?  Are they kind, thoughtful or not? Are they genuine? Do they LOVE non matching socks? When I coach my kids, I call this parenting. As we get older, this attention to detail is called personal branding. 

Kelly Marble, Outside-In Consulting Client

Our image, what we convey outwardly, otherwise known as our brand, provides these future opportunities to connect. Setting intention behind our personal brand is empowering and gives us control over who we draw to us. Clothing is a huge part of personal branding. A unique and authentic look is empowering, not just for ourselves but for others to witness. We are able to send a message about who we are by how we are put together. What do people see? Creativity, spunk, attention to detail? Someone happy and alive? Someone tired and haphazard?

Sommer Sharon, Outside-In Consulting Client

If we use personal branding to reflect our true selves accurately to others, we have a high likelihood of attracting those with whom we can have true and meaningful relationships, both in our professional and personal lives.

I am SO excited to offer a two hour clothing consultation to the winner of Ivory House Photography's Empowerment Portrait Session giveaway. I think this is the perfect opportunity for a deserving woman to pamper herself head to toe and really take a moment to take inventory of her power to enable her to design her ideal personal brand for the camera!

Empowerment Portrait Session: Julie Ross

A note from Whitney: 

Several people have asked if I get bored shooting in my studio. This is such a crazy thought that I find myself laughing out loud at the question. There is NOTHING monotonous about photographing humans. I became a photographer to capture people, to show my subject's strength, beauty and individuality. So perhaps it seems strange that I photograph on such simple with such a simple background, black, white, brick. But to me - every human is so unique and that's the point. Take everything else away, and let's focus on what's important - YOU.

Everyday, every person is a new adventure. The people who walk into my studio wow me. My clients give ME strength and perspective and humility. They show me that life is hard and you survive. They show me that you can take on terrible loss and come out the other side, more confident, more powerful and more present.  Working with a warrior like Julie Ross is a perfect example of the inspiration I get to experience daily. She exemplifies someone who I would nominate for an Empowerment Portrait. Nominate a woman warrior in your life and she could be surprised with a complimentary photo shoot and styling.

To Julie - thank you for sharing your strength, your humor and your generosity of spirit. I know you inspire so many to keep moving forward. 

Words from Julie Ross:

In general, I'm not a big fan of getting my picture taken. Somehow, I always find myself being captured in an awkward position or flashing a weird smile. I have convinced myself I am so much cuter in my imagination and most of the photos I take are not real! Because of these thoughts, the last time I sat down for a studio portrait was in 2004 - 13 years ago. As I have gotten to know Whitney and followed along with her portrait work, I saw she seemed to bring out a relaxed version of each person she photographed.

#TBT 2004

Even with all my hesitations, I also know the importance of having a reflection of yourself for loved ones to cherish years down the road. Having lost my husband at an early age, I was grateful for each and every picture I had and especially the recent portrait of him taken at Pioneer. So, I decided to reach out and do a portrait session with Whitney.

I actually felt pretty relaxed before the shoot. I decided to wear just one outfit -  my “uniform.” A lovely jacket with a simple blouse, leggings and a fabulous heel. How could I go wrong? It’s what I normally wear so there was nothing to labor about. I chose to have Whitney’s make-up artist style me (which I love doing!) so I showed up in jeans and let them do their work! 

Confidence is a tricky thing and its what the camera picks up the most. I tend to be a confident person and live by the motto of “Never Let Them See You Sweat.”   I wanted these photos to be a reflection of my motto and I knew I needed to use my body language to convey that emotion.  I am not a particularly dainty person, I like to lean, cross my legs in a masculine position, fold my arms…you name it!  I'm confident about this body language in person, I am always nervous about awkward angles in front of the camera.   How is it that every 20 year old knows how to pose to look 10 pounds thinner and the only way I know is the one that makes me look 10 pounds heavier? In the past, I've worried that the photographer I was working with wouldn’t look for the best angles and moods that fit me but Whitney immediately jumped in and put me at all the right angles (clearly, if you have seen any of the pictures we chose.)  She took control and made me feel like a zillion bucks. She also shot enough variety of images and poses that I knew there were going to be a few that we both would love.   

I simply loved getting my make up done, putting on a great pair of heels and having a photo shoot that was all about me.  I may be on the mature side of life but I still feel beautiful now and again and this experience made me feel beautiful, young and alive. I think we should all do this for ourselves once and awhile.  I am grateful I have several photos that really capture the essence of who I am today and someday my kids will enjoy them and take pride in these images. Thank you, Whitney for the heavy dose of mojo that you have given me!!!

Amanda + Molly: Engagement Session

One of my very first in-person interactions with Amanda and Molly was our drive to Saylorville. They had a particular place in mind so I jump in their vehicle for the journey. That journey included the age old directions battle every couple is familiar with. Both know the best way, neither is conceding, eventually we get to where we're going. Amanda and Molly both apologized for fighting in front of me and I turned to them and said something along the lines of, "Ladies, this is the real stuff. You're a real couple. If you didn't fight over directions, I would think you were robots." When it came time to start shooting, I simply told them to turn towards each other, kiss like you like each other and forget the rest. 

Photoshoots invite stress. From picking the perfect outfits, to getting proper directions, to a misbehaving dog, to realizing your favorite sunset spot is roped off for a political event. They are stressful because they reflect real life. We're not painting impressions of the evening. We're capturing the real deal. The real weather. The real uncooperative dog and that's what makes every moment risky and oh, so magical. 

Here's what Amanda and Molly had to say about their engagement session:

Words from Amanda:

When Molly and I began planning for our engagement shoot, I had only two requirements: (1) at least some of the pictures had to be taken at a specific park south of Saylorville Lake, and (2) the pictures needed to be authentically “us.”

Long before I knew who would be standing next to me, I knew it was the place I wanted my engagement pictures taken. The park/campground that holds the Saylorville spillway was named for my grandpa and has always been a special place for my family. Over the years, we’ve take photos in front of the “Bob Shetler Recreation Area” sign to chart our “growth” from kids clutching teddy bears to angsty teenagers with braces and ratty converse. My grandpa passed away before I was born, but the park always felt created a personal link to him.

The second requirement - ensuring the pictures captured us authentically - would be an obvious expectation of any couple. As a gay couple, however, we knew we couldn’t truly be “us” unless we felt comfortable with our photographer and that they felt comfortable with us. Finding gay-friendly vendors in a progressive city like Des Moines didn’t seem like something we’d struggle with, but it did prove to be a realistic concern. And a photo shoot? That would put us in some pretty intimate, vulnerable positions. We needed someone who could laugh at our jokes and capture us genuinely.

Side note from Whitney: It's super important to me that every couple who walks in my door - gay or straight - experiences tons of fun, comfort and a confidence that I will take care of them. I'm so glad Amanda & Molly trusted that they were in good hands.****

Words from Molly:

Our engagement photoshoot wouldn’t be complete without our pup, Boston. She’s the center of our lives, and I thought it would be cute if she made the official “save the date” announcement. We quickly learned that she’s not the most cooperative, focused, or patient when it comes to getting her picture taken, but we were lucky enough to get one or two good pictures. (I can’t really blame her, though; there were a million new smells, people, and even wild animals roaming around to pique her curiosity.) If anything, our engagement shoot served as the perfect warm-up for our wedding day. We plan to make Boston our ringbearer/flowergal, and we are now aware of her limitations when it comes to having pictures taken. And Whitney now knows how many treats to keep in her pocket.

Empowerment Portrait Session: Kim Wall

"I don't photograph well."

I have heard this defensive line more times then I can count. It's usually one of the first things people say when they meet me. Its definitely uttered consistently on the phone when future clients are booking me for portrait sessions.

Here's the thing guys - in bad lighting, with a wide angle iPhone or in mediocre lighting with a mediocre photographer - we ALL have the potential to photograph poorly. Being the subject of a photo is NOT an easy thing to do. Our bodies were made to move. They were made to function and protect us. They were made to get us through long work days and consume beautiful meals - they were not meant to stand static in front of a lens and be frozen in time.

So when someone says, "I don't photograph well," I have only one response. "That's OK! I do!!"

I do photograph well. I have spent the last ten years photographing every single type of person you can imagine. No one's face is a challenge. No one's body is a mystery. I truly love the uniqueness of every person - of getting to show someone who "doesn't photograph well" just how untrue that mantra is.

Kim was an amazing example of this sentiment. If you have ever met Kim - even in passing, you know that she shines. She is positively vibrant with energy and beauty. Her perfect porcelain skin and gorgeous red hair, combined with her bright style and fabulous glasses make her immediately memorable. So when Kim told me she didn't photograph well, I just chuckled and thought - we'll see about that!

As you might have guessed by now - I have proven Kim wrong. Not only does she photograph well - she photographs brilliantly. Her confidence shines through in EVERY SINGLE photo. And if that's not true beauty - I don't know what is. This is exactly why I'm doing an Empowerment Portrait for one truly amazing lady. Nominate a woman who is beautiful inside and out. Tell me how she has inspired you. She could end up with a complimentary Empowerment Portrait Session!

Hear from Kim on how she felt about her portrait session:

It's amazing how empowering it can be to see yourself through someone else's eyes. Someone who doesn't share your self-doubt, but instead sees your best self.

Before my shoot with Whitney, I was nervous. While I know I'm a strong, powerful and dynamic woman, I don't usually like photos of myself. I'm not quite where I want to be fitness-wise at the moment so I beat myself up for that. I don't always like my smile because I have a noticeable-only-to-me crooked thing happening so I hold my face weird. The negative self-talk overrides my otherwise confident self in photos - and I know it. So it's no surprise that I overthink things during photos and awkwardness ensues. I'm a work in progress, actively banishing the negative from my life. But it creeps in there sometimes.

Whitney was able to guide me from start to finish in every aspect of the shoot, leaving nothing for me to overthink. The experience was actually super fun! She instinctively knows how to make what's inside shine on the outside. She understands a woman's body and accentuates what's uniquely beautiful without hiding what's real.

The result? Photos that capture me - the real me. I'm strong, I'm confident, my personality comes out and slaps you in the face and, most importantly, I see my beauty and strength both inside and out. Notice I didn't say "you see." I see it for myself which is the biggest win of all.

Peace out, self-doubt.

Empowerment Portrait Session: Taylor VanderWell

Meeting Taylor is equivalent to meeting a calm, quiet, force of nature. I learned very quickly that her power centered in a deep connection to herself and her body. This woman is grounded. Her feet are planted on the earth and she is intentional about her life and choices. So I can imagine a surprise pregnancy was a bit of a shock. 

Photographing Taylor was an amazing experience. Her confidence inspired me - her beauty overwhelmed me. Her love of this beautiful unborn baby astounded me. I can't wait to watch her become a mother. I know she'll bring every once of calm strength she has to that child's life. She is the epitome of an empowering woman. I would nominate her for an empowerment portrait in a heartbeat. (Have you nominated an inspiring woman yet?)

Read Taylor's story below. 

*** Caution - nudity ahead. But let's be cool. A woman's body is a stunning thing and I want to celebrate it every chance I get! 

I was lying on the floor of my apartment listening to a guided meditation. The woman leading it said to, “focus on the aliveness in your pelvis”. In that instant, my entire body tingled. I suddenly had this overwhelming feeling that there was, indeed, aliveness in my pelvis. But more than one preventative measure had been taken and I was pretty sure the lady beast had paid me a visit the week before...so there was just NO way that could be possible. 

Ha…ha. Ha.

No matter how many sticks I peed on the next morning, they all looked up at me with those two life-changing lines. 

There was 14 hours before the baby’s father was going to board a plane to Africa, where he’d be doing PhD research for the next 1.5 years or so (for the record, he is incredibly supportive and returned early to join baby & I for keeps). I did 32 weeks of pregnancy solo. Completely squashing my all-natural, out-of-hospital birth plan and euphoric pregnancy fantasies were bleeding, a placenta previa, pelvic rest, a vasa previa and a velementous cord insertion that landed me in the hospital for 3 weeks of observation with a c-section delivery scheduled 5 weeks early. So, it's been wildly beautiful and horrible journey all at once.

But through this entire experience, there has been a consistent theme that I keep coming back to: women are f*ing strong. Hands down, it is the strength and presence of women in my life, childless and not, that has held me together these last 7 months. This pregnancy has revealed to me an obvious physical strength--like my body just knowing how to grow and nurture my son inside of it, deliver him through it, and then continue the process of growing and nurturing him outside of it.

But it has also revealed a mental and emotional strength that comes from surrendering to the unexpected and embracing it. There has been something holy and sacred in recognizing that strength and power of my body, mind and soul. All of it. From those very first tingles that told me, “hey, there’s someone happening in here” to the stitches that will soon adorn my abdomen...my body has done something incredibly powerful, and I wanted that captured.